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Monday, August 20, 2007

Seterusnya...Kisah JT

Selepas puas ber temper-tantrum ala-ala Elton John, nah, hambik you all cerita lanjutan kisah dating I dengan K a.k.a. Jantan Tembam.Observing what's been happening around the negaraku (ku) yang terchenta, I feel the need to announce this,

Bahawasanya, saya sebagai rakyat Malaysia, berikrar bahawa K is just K, not Khairy Jamaluddin, and saya adalah blogger separuh masa dan berjanji bahawa isi kandungan cerita saya tiada unsur-unsur politik (walaupun ada sedikit unsur hasutan) yang boleh mengganggu gugat pentadbiran kerajaan bapa mentua saya (eh..silap, saya bukan KJ) dan saya juga, dengan ini mengesahkan yang saya juga bukanlah seekor monyet, mahupun beruk ataupun cikah, jauh sekali Alison Moyet tetapi saya tetap teringin nak memiliki koleksi aksesori Monet. Saya berasa amat kecil hati, kerana sebagai rakyat Malaysia (tetapi saya tidak membayar cukai pintu ataupun mencarum EPF ataupun PERKESO) kami blogger-blogger (Bloggers Idol kira tak?) telah dianggap monyet oleh Encik KJ. Apa? Encik panggil saya monyet?! Sedapnya mulut...apasal, Encik hensem sangat ke? Saya berharap semoga Encik KJ akan kalah dalam pilihanraya akan datang. Sedemikian itu, disini saya ingin sekali lagi mengesahkan yang nama JT ialah K, tapi bukannya Khairy, so, Encik Khairy Jamaluddin, sila jangan berani nak saman saya, tau?

Okay, pardon my previous entry yang telah ter deviate dari kisah dating I. Well, you can't help to get sidetracked, especially on some burning issue like Negarakuku tu. And also, if I have inadvertantly mengecikkan hati mana-mana goverment servant, well, what can I say, terlajak perahu boleh gostan kan...tapi kalau Makji Esah dah komplen, gasaklah.

As you all know, hari Jem'at lepas, I went and see my ex school mate. Budak ni, masa kami sekolah sesama dulu, tak pernah tegur I.I'm not sure if I am invicible (hello, I ni 5 foot 8 okay, tipulah kalau tak pernah nampak) or dia ni yang rabun. K was once upon a time ago a very good looking man.He fits the criteria of a boyfriend idaman Malaya, walaupun I dengan dia macam Tupai dengan kapalterbang, that I am the Tupai, yang paling tinggi pun kat atas pokok aje and he is the kapalterbang Boeing 747-400 yang sekali terbang, 13 jam baru jejak tanah.

It so obvious that he was nervous last Friday, I can't even begin to explain why.For someone yang dah ada experience with the opposite sex, ermm..he was not single in the whole 2 years kami kat MRSM, and although dah nak kena cerai dek bininya sekarang, I don't think that dia ada syndrome takut kat pompuan.I was so put off by his mannerism towards female company, but for him, giving his current predicament (nak kena cerai) and extreme hunger...I feel that I am obliged to excuse his ungentlemanness last Friday.

I don't know what to expect of him but I am so curious to know what he has been up to all this while since I last saw him...1990? I was expecting to talk about all the good old time, although we don't have any old time together and I have no choice but to ask about what happened to his ex girlfriend. Let me tell you si dua ni, cinta maut...the girl is from Perak and K, sekarang ni I baru tau, is originally from KL...Kampung Pandan huhhh!!! The whole MRSM tau betapa Ali dengan Asmidar nya sidua-dua ni...to those new age yang tak tau, Ali & Asmidar is the 2 character from that Ali Setan, kisah cinta menggeledik where the pompuan at first buat-buat tak suka tapi pastu bergayut dengan si Jantan cam Orang Utan kat Sepilok. I really thought that they both ended up kahwin, because most of my friends yang bercinta monyet satu sekolah semuanya ended up berkahwin walaupun bukan dengan the same person yang they all puas membuang masa bercinta with.

Well, K and that girl parted ways after 5 years together. K went to Portsmouth and that girl, masuk UM. According to K, the girl don't love him enough to withstand the distance that separated them.He was knocked off big time by her decision (part ni, seriously, sedih aku mendengarnya...close to home lah katakan) K told me that he actually went home after his degree to re pursue that girl, tapi that girl dah dekat nak kahwin dengan pakwe barunya. K returned to England for his Master and balik Malaysia and started working. Masa ni lah dia jumpa his soon-to-be ex wife. K told me that he was lonely and the girl 'can do' lah. They went and get married after a year of 'suai-kenal'....haiyoo...jantan!!!

Help me with this...not trying to generalise men but from what I have come across, men are not good at admitting fault or mistake.The married one somehow are exellent in moonlighting as a single man without any care and the seperated one and the one about to be married, either not happy or super anxious with hormones all over the place.

K was married for almost or over 5 years, no children.Tak ready katanya.Well, isn't that a sign, for a man who are not ready for a baby is a baby himself? The way K talked about his wife is so common, common excuse for a man who made mistakes of rushing into things and can't decide of who he actually want.Example....given Kate Moss, Angelina Jolie or Jodie Foster...tiga-tiga pun nak, married Angelina Jolie but after 2,3 tahun, baru realised yang dia nak kat Jodie Foster sebenarnya.

People can be quite weird when comes to choosing partner.I went out with this guy, a self-made millionaire.For some reason, his wealth doesn't appeal to me, although, masa keluar dengan dia, I never paid for our meal. See, I am so into equal ops...hari ni I bayar...besok you pulak...tak nak makan budi punya pasal.But this guy is so into showing his stance of masculinity by taking control.After 3 months, see aside the wealth, in a long run, we do not have anything in common. He made it clear why he wants me as a wife...because of my educational background (musykil pulak...bukannya I sorang aje dalam Malaysia tu study kat oversea, Cik Abang oiii)

I'm with my partner now, pasalnya dia very intelligent, perangai buruk but have a brain of a encyclopedia.Why, because I want someone that I can argue with (memang pun bergaduh hari-hari) someone that endure all kind of shit that come out of my head and my no nonsense. (But by saying this, ada jugak tarikh luputnya tau?)

I do not know the subtle way to put this, but would you know the feeling of being with someone that is not at all compatible with you? Love may last until certain amout of time but after years of feeling 'alone' in a relationship or a marriage with no one to share anything in common apart from sex, surely one bound to find a way out.

I think this is what happened to K, but K being a man with no mean to excuse his mistakes, blaming 'wife' for being not understanding.If only K allowed his wife to be his 'friend' and not wife, maybe he will see a difference and maybe wife can 'open up' a bit more.

Women are usualy good with boundaries, some of us are even good friends with this male friends of ours and enjoy a good and meanigful casual chat.I told K that as a man, he should take some responsibility in his marriage breakdown, it is obvious that after a while, he was building up expectation and it took him a while to realise that the 'wife' is not the one he wants as 'wife'. Nobody want a divorce, break up or anything sewaktu dengannya, but if you want your relationship to work, you must do some 'work'.

K is blatantly blaming the 'wife'. Well, that's a typical man.Have you heard of any ex husband with a good words about their ex wife? I heard of one...my aunty is a good friend of Aida Rahim's ex husband...and he always said 'she was a good wife, aku je yang macam setan'.

Well, what do I know about it anyway...

14 comments:

Lee Novotny said...

Hhahahaha tu diah.... semua kuar tu hah! Tupai, kapalterbang, Jodie Foster..abis tubik!

Kannn mak pun musykil fasal KJ nih! Jeles kot sebab kita ada idea buat blog..who is he to say things about us??? Ko bukan BAPAK aku pun!

Goddess Selene said...

Hah! Sessi meluahkan perasaan sudah berlaku!! Knape tetiba jer dia trust you and told all the datok nenek story kan? Seswatuh sgt!...

P/s: KJ dok panggil org tulis blog nie monyet ker? Mak ingat dia tu yg monyet! Or rather say baboon kot! Tak tau la knape Pak Lah aka Jantan Lemah (JL) boleh terima baboon jadi menantu? So mak agak cucu JL tu mesti campuran baboon & ungka!! Seswai sgt! hah now come & sue me! *pthuii...

Manal said...

Dah kenyang, banyak lak benda dia nak cakap yea....

My bro-inlaw's fren pon divorced his wife as they became distant from each other and wife became busier and busier with her career life, coming home after 12 midnite and left all the responsibilities including their kids to her man. No matter how sexy the lady can be, a good fella needs some loving and attentions too. As in they are pretty much equal to a woman when it comes to attention seeking although some men rasa "kalah" when the wife is getting more n more independent and has the capacity of being selfish more than them.

As for JT, he's really troubled. His dick didnt think the same way as his brain up there when they 1st got married. Once there is no longer any connection established between him n wifey, even that tiny 3" dick can surrender to being hopeless.

Heck, every coin has two sides. Is he that great a husband to not admitting any fault?

The Pisces Man said...

Hapa...? KJ called us bloggers monyet... Kurang ajo punyer kongkang anak king kong.. or have i misunderstood smthing?

U r soo rite, a man who are not ready for a baby is a baby himself. I too smtimes rasa cam terpaksa compete ngan baby i jer.. hahaha.. of course my baby IS my life, cuma perasaan terpaksa compete tu aja timbul skali skala. Luckily i tak pernah rasa dengki, or jeles kat baby i plak, unlike some husbands out there who are jealous coz their wives now spend more time with their babies than with them..

So, Jolie, hope ur Brad Pitt tak camtu kan? :o

Hjh Esah Jolie said...

Lee & Mak Eton,
Dia tak leh sue kita, sebab kita kan dah diprotect oleh ER government? Tu lah kan..Makji, I tanya apa kena dgn ex gf, habis keluar cerita panas..cam cirit birit..

Manal,like any other failed husband kan? Off putting betul...not bcos part makan cam biba tu..tapi part yang bila problem...semua pompuan salah!!! Yes true, ppl said there 2 sides of a coin, tapi I think his coin..dua-dua side pon sama...gambo dia

Pieces, that what I read, yg dia panggil kita ni Monyet, cis!!! Waa..liddat wan ahh...so jeles with baby meh...why? is the baby getting more milk than you?

elviza said...

Eshah, kalu si KJ tu saman ko, Akak defend ko: FOC! ProBono! Sapa lagi ko nak onboard? Cakap jer... (ish emo pulak)

Fuhhhh, the dah terblog roll di sini akak rupa2 nya...tu lah suka sangat bagi comment kat blog kau yg happening ni Eshah.

JT ni nak kena motivasi dgn Akak but then I thought, aku pun tak seterer mana dalam r'ship issue so tak payah lah kot.

Love is a funny thing my friend.

Cik Kiah Kidman said...

Have you never noticed that ex boipren or ex hubby hanya akan bercakap baik about their ex-es setelah the ex-es dah dgn org lain and diaorg jadi gila talak?

(And i also noticed org di keliling kelalang i yg mana wives akan puji husbands diaorg are the ones yg laki mati muda..pelik sgt kan??)

Hjh Esah Jolie said...

Elviza....sila-sila, looking at the way mulutku ini ber operasi, I really need a solicitor that is handy...(so aizee & sarafina, dah beribu tahun kita kawan...tak pernah pon korang offer kan?)

Kiah....adakah ini bermakna kau akan taruk racun kat nasi kangkang laki mu?

mutalib said...

perangai dia cam tak hormat pompuan adalah disebabkan dia dah lama kawin, dan probably slowly dah tak suka kat bini dia... tak macam zaman dating dulu.. pastu cara dia layak hjh ialah probably sbb hjh ialah pompuan yg pertama dia dating selain isteri dia sekian 5 tahun lamanya... mayb slowly dia akan get back in d cara layanan wanita yg sepatutnya kot.. pastu lagi satu maybe dia tak anggap dating ngan hjh sebagai date, tapi jumpa kawan lama... takpun biasalaa.. kalo masa mrsm dulu dia tak notice hjh, skrg pun dia mungkin tak notis gak dan tak perlu, pada hematnya, utk layan hjh dgn cara yg spesel atau standard dating MO... hjh represents his golden age of being d talk of d crowd, dan dia probably rasa sedikit stim kuar ngan hjh...sekian dulu analisis buat kali ini...

aizee said...

Akak, boleh tak cakap kat dia yang aku ni yang satu kelas pun dulu tak dipandang nya...

Hjh Esah Jolie said...

Muthalib, point taken. However, for someone who is actually is KEEN inverted coma to rekindle long lost friendship, si K ni kira terlebih menjejak kasih lah...but I can assure that he now notice me, BIG TIME,maybe pasal dia dah tak hensem lagi kot.

Aizee, sebelum kau comment, aku dah terlebih dulu sound dia..jawapannya, busy sports you all...takde masa nak notice org...bongkak tak? Perlukah aku bagitau yg ko sekarang ni dah jadik loyar..majistret?

captlukman said...

hayoo monyet ke kita or theolls? tak pasalkan.......mak rasa diaorg tu nka jugak ngomen cam kita yg berblog ni tapi takda masa kot coz busy bercakap tak serupa bikin kot

Anonymous said...

I have a friend yg who's been going out with a married man for 3 years. Kata the man nak ceraikan the wife pasal dulu masa kahwin, kena match-make, family wife pun suka dia and not because of c-i-n-t-a. But anak dah 2, 3. So now after dah nak dekat 10 tahun baru nak teringat tak chenta??

Pas tu mula lah citer buruk mcm2 pasal his soon-to-be-ex-wife kat my friend ni and being oh-so-naive & chenta kat mamat ni, my friend pun percaya that the marriage breakdown is entirely the wifey's fault.

She's a little older than me and I have given her some advice as someone who's been married for 5 yrs. But tak nak percaya, so sudah lah.

mutalib said...

mamat tu just nak a shoulder to cry on... or shoulder to ehehememehemem.. dan sbb dia tau dia dah tak hensem so since dia sedar hjh perhaps pernah notis dia masa sekolah dulu, sure dia ingat dia hot stuff and is being very keen... and by d time divorce actually happen, sure lagi kerap dia keen dan nak hang out bersama...