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Monday, June 22, 2009

Apparently...Acceptable

I got this email from a woman, yang by reading her email is so fed up being treated like a punching bag by the boipren. 'I always thinking about ending it with him...but loves overruled every bad thing'. Kau ada rasa nak muntah tak, Kiah?

Cik Kak, kalau ni lah masalah Cik Kak...after reading this, Cik Kak boleh le buat keputusan sendiri ye? Cinta, cinta jugak Kak oii. Cinta hapa ke nama nya kalau dok nak berterajangan aje? Lagipun Cik Kak kan gilpren nya saja...bukannya bini.

Apa kata, Cik Kak bungkuslah segala kain baju (this is if you both are living together) tak pun kalau dok asing-asing, sudah lah..delete lah dia dari penglihatan Cik Kak. Pastu...Cik Kak pergilah ke Salem Power Station, beli CD The Best Of Destiny Child, and dengar lah lagu 'Survivor' sampai lebam. Nescaya Cik Kak akan terasa lapang didada.

I read in the paper about an 'executive' who beat his wife, slashed her with a knife for not making his sandwiches and then burnt her on the back with an iron because she hadn't ironed his shirt. He told the police she was a self-harmer. That's like Jackass style self-harming to iron your own back, isn't it?This 25-year-old guy, who claimed he 'couldn't remember doing it' and who earns £90,000 a year was given a £2000 fine and the judge said as she'd left him, he was unlikely to do it again. Yeah, until he meets his next wife.

Today I read about a DOCTOR who punched his wife 24 times. He earns £100,000 a year. His punishment? He had to pay her £500 compensation. Five hundred pounds. The magistrate said this caring GP had no previous convictions and was of 'good character'.Here's an experiment. Go up to stranger in the street and slash them with a knife. Beat someone to a pulp. Burn them, literally brand them for life. You will be rightly jailed. But if you 'love' the person you do it to, it's OK. It's perfectly acceptable. This harks back to years gone by when women had to obey and just get raped and beaten by their husbands and had to take it. It wasn't even illegal. I thought we'd moved on.What sort of magistrate decides a wife-beater has a good character? What sort of character must that judge have to make that call? The sort that is a fucking wife-beating and/ or kiddy-fiddler himself (because they don't like sending perverts down either). That's why they do nothing about violence against women and children, because they ALL have a hand in it. That's the only explanation I can think of. It's either that or women's lives are just considered worthless. Women's pain is just considered a by-product of marriage.Two women a week are killed by their partner in England and Wales. The message these 'sentences' spell out is that it's tough shit. Some years back they changed the system so the police could press charges against abusive husbands without the wife's consent. This was a positive step as too many wives were too scared to come forward. But what the is the point if magistrates who are so devoid from reality and emotion think a beating from the man you love is worth about five hundred quid?

Kesimpulannya Kak, blah aje lah.

10 comments:

Anonymous said...

Salam

Makji...apa kabar? Lama xupdate...sekali update hah ambik kau. Besh...update camni selalu ya. Syiok ke gi paris?

Miss reading your blog.
-kakmin-

Hjh Esah Jolie said...

errr..Kak Min, mana taww saya pi Paris ni? Gossip kedai kopi semata tu...

As said...

Wah syiok nye. Tak bole tido tetiba ada update!

Anonymous said...

ha'ah le makji, you ke parits kan? cuti2 parits jumpa diva kat sana hehehe..

yatie

Anonymous said...

salam....

dlm hal neh senang jek....
i ada pengalamn....i kena pukul sekali jek dengan suami i masa masih dlm honeymoon....i apa lagi lepas kene pukul i relax 2 jam utk buang segala emosi n rasa terkejut neh...then i pegi buat report polis pastu i pegi spital(dgn inai masih merah di jari...sop sop sop)..kul 12.45 pagi plak tu....then polis tahan laki i malam tu jugak...itu la kali terakhir i tgk dia bebas x bergari....besoknya i terus pegi mengadu di jab agama terus uztazah tu failkan kes i(tanpa ada kaunseling atau rundingan)...siap jek sijil nikah 3 bulan kemudian(nak cerai kene ada surat nikah) terus sebulan lepas tu kes i naik...mintak fasakh...tp mamat ni nak jugak fight ngn i...dia buat pembelaan....dia kata i yg aniaya dia...hahah...i ada medical report suma jadi i senyum jek....then dlm 3 4 kali naik court..last2 dia setuju ceraikan i....(sbb i bg kaunseling dia di penjara jgn malukan diri depan hakim haaa)i rasa i sorang jek i senyum lebar lepas kene cerai.......utk pengetahuan...laki i ni...eh...ex laki...kene penjara 1 tahun setengah.....itu hadiah honeymoon i utk suami tersayang...

bg i cinta cinta jugak...tp x berbaloi klau badan sakit..yg paling teruk emosi i terjejas n rasa demotivated teramat sgt....

Desert Rose said...

ah ah tolong tak leh digest set pompuan mcm neh, kena lenjan , tibai separuh nyawa pun dok tunggu lagi....blah la wei.

Mint said...

Makji: walau apepun dont ever let laki ke, bf ke atau saper-saperpun pukul kite. Kalau dah biasa tangan naik ke badan susah nanti nak hilang perangai tu...

Manal said...

I am so with u on the call for ditching that SOB of a partner(bf, laki). We shud love ourselves more and think how precious our life are, and how much we could contribute to many other things rather than being some bugger's victim that could only leave u tormented and traumatized (scarred for life uols). Why is it that "love" overrules even it is at the expense of your own sanity and physical well being? Bukan ka baik love God and mother nature and children and animals? Kita bukan hidup kat dunia ni nak melayan perasaan jantan jer. Every man and woman has the right to be the pemakmur muka bumi and tidak suka kepada kepada kerosakan/anything destructive (that include a mental inconsiderate partner)

And yeah kalau mangkuk tu nak plak merayu ala2 laa nak balik and bertaubat segala, soh dia pi la carik gopren/bini lain kan, and terus berdoa byk2 (kalau muslim untuk elak kena ape2 la in terms of black magic) and inform ur family, friends , police even (segala laaa) and this goes for every woman la, so that she'll feel more secured . And if ever that asshole nak dtg kacau, u can seek for safety and all that stuff. U see, a woman shud NOT be quiet over such domestic violence. Yet at the same time, jgn la plak mandai2 buat fitnah kena pukul la ape la, sbb at the end of the day, a woman's voice in the court is much less heard if she began ranting incessantly and the man was then found innocent.

I dunno if any have seen this movie: "Provoked" with Aishwarya Rai and Navin Andrews. But it could be an eye-opener. The abused wife pi bakar laki dia hidup2 n was sentenced for 1st degree murder. IN the end she was vindicated thanks to the lawyers who managed to unravel the domestic violence case that forced the wife to be so vengeful and disturbed.
Tak pun byk lagi la movies, macam "Enough" with J-lo.

so they say: Enough is enough.

Lee Novotny said...

That is so we called: Broken Britain...jgn malaysia pun nak menghadapi kehancuran inniew udahler..dos ada bibit bibit tuuuu

nbns said...

Makji...


Wa sker makji nyer conclusion.

Tepat lagi padat!!!

Kudos!

-nbns-