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Thursday, July 05, 2012

We Said We Don't, But We Do...

Semalam ada counselling session tak rasmi. Tak berbayar..walaupun dalam waktu berbayar. Colleague to colleague. Tidak digalakkan kan....tapi kalau orang nak bercakap dgn you, takkan you nak kata, podah pulak kannn?

Working with people can stresses you out to the highest heaven. If you are not in hell, you are might as well on your way to it. There's this policy about no abusive practise will be tolerated. Okay, bab ni...kalau kat Malaysia sinun, you tengok customer dalam bank or dalam jabatan gomen marah2, memang sikena marah tu patut dimarah. Kadang2 budi bahasa langsung tak ada orang bank and orang gomen kat Malaysia tu, nak nak kalau diorang tu in a position of authority, kan? Tapi kerja dengan orang..ada standard ISO bagai Sirim and what not. Why choose to work with public when you rather be behind closed door checking your Pesbuk?

Kerja I banyak risks. Kalau tak risk dari patients, risk dari orang luar and risks dari Boss. Kawan sekerja pun mampu menjadi punca kecelakaan jua. But nowadays, apa yang risk free? Nak parking kereta kat secured car park pun boleh kena assault. Tengah bawak kereta pun boleh kena hijack. Ni kat area yang Hisham Tun Hussein kata kadar jenayah sudah turun. Ye lah...kat area umah dia, umah cousin2 dia ye lah kot. Ada security guard, ada drebar..ada lesen pistol...jangan kata perampok, hantu penanggal pun pikir 2,3 kali.

What drove people to commit crime? Variety of desperations. We always think that the criminal semua berhati jahat dan mempunyai keberanian yang tinggi. Ohhh..mereka penakut jua. Because commit crime pun ada risk. Buatnya orang yang you nak serang tu berwaris jari hantu yang boleh bertukar menjadi rimau? And of course you heard abt that policeman yang kena samun lalu ditembak nya sipenyamun itu.

Okaylah, bukannya nak cakap pasal crime. I ni sepanjang masa hidup dalam time bomb. Always have to watch my back and bag. But speaking to my colleague yesterday, reminded me how people like to cleverly excuse themselves from the bad things they do to others.

Eh? Oh yes..we all do that sometimes. Intentionally and not.

You know when people like to use the phrase...ohhh I hate to tell you this but blablabla...giving you bad news or telling you bad things.  Or things like, I don't mean to upset you sososososo...but yes, whatever he/she said did upset you.

The truth is, yes. We intend to upset that person by telling them what we are telling them that's bad. Especially bab extra marital affair, kan? You ask your friend to come clean...alasan nya memang tak nak menyakitkan hati the mangsa penipuan (---okay, please don't bother excusing yourself from this label, because once you buat benda salah kat orang and didn't tell them about it, you masuklah dalam category penipu jua)

When something upsetting happened to me recently, MB told me that she is susrprised that I hadn't learned my lesson. She rightly told me, yes..you needed this (being mistreated by your so called friends) and next time, you know that although they're your friend, they are capable of upsetting you. Ohh..I actually should be telling her that, but MB lives longer than me..so she probably have seen many bad friends in her time. I am too in denial most of the time. Because I want to live happily.

Happy lah sangat, kan?

Tu bab kecewa-kecewa. Have you seen statement yang kata, ohh I don't mean to brag but I blablablabla. Ada unsur menunjuk. Kalau nak tunjuk, tunjuk ajelah. Ada reason menunjuk tu. Not every 'brag' is bad. Kalau you nak menunjuk kat orang that you actually look younger than your age, anak pun orang ingat adik beradik..then of course, brag lah. Positive picture there is, I actually manage to look this youthful because I tak minum, hisap rokok and exercise mengalahkan Madonna.

But truthfully, people yang menunjuk tu have their own reason. Susah nak cakap why. Dulu2 ada gak orang gunakan blog mereka untuk menunjukkan rasa tak puas hati....openly. Takde cover2 langsung. You know who were they referring tu. Hal kecik yang macam bangang pun boleh menjadi punca sakit ati. So petty kenkadang...yang I have come across, kalau style dressing anak orang tu sama macam anak dia pun, dia kata orang tu nak copycat dia. Alahai....bila baca tu taktau nak gelak ke or nak kesian. So, maybe the intention was to show to others, hey...don't mess with me. Some people feel so at ease with themselves so there is no need to 'stand out'. Of course now and again, we like a bit of attention. Kalau I ada anak, boleh la jugak buat blog and called myself Mummy Namabudakkecik and tayang gegambar anak I and ber networking bersama 'Mommy Namabudak kecik' yang lain. Ohh..my stance against blog gambar budak2 ni adalah ---less exposure the better. My reason for that is...sebab dah berpuluh2 paedo I jumpa and kerja. You mommies, however proud you may be, inadvertantly, you are feeding to their (them paedophiles) deprivation. But hak you lah kann. Plus, I ni takde anak, so I cannot relate to the pride and joy. Cakap lelebih orang kata kita jeles pulak. I ni pakkal takde benda nak ditunjuk, kalau tak lama dah menunjukkkk. Kan Kiah?

3 comments:

Man G said...

You nyer line of argument macam lawyer lah mak aji tapi but them arguments are not admissible in court
On the ground they are too prejudicial.

Makji Esah said...

If you read it when a prejudicial mind, then it will be. But in courts of law, people even argue a hundred carat lies, so what is there to be surprise about, kan?

Anonymous said...

Sah lawyer ! Baik punya answer hehe