Different Pages Of Us

Hello staff Kenny Rogers...dimana-mana cawangan pun (except The Curve) Uols memang lah bernasib baik sebab Cik Kiah hanya sampai hati mengomplen via blog dia aje sebab kalau lah uols kena kat I...err, ingat tak Capt Lukman & Fiona Shanana...service hempas cutleries kat Midvalley? Harus ku panggil Manager nya depan staff hempas-hempas tu and suruh dia buang 10% service charge dari bill kami. Jawapan saya senang aje...kenapa saya perlu bayar dgn service yang lembab, hempas menghempas dan muka yang sial? I rasa nak kerja aje kat Kenny Rogers. Seriously, most customer will mind their own business anyway..so, susah ke sangat kau nak buat kerja kau? Kalau tak nak melayan orang, janganlah jadik pelayan, kan? Tak malu ke mintak service charge weih? Itu untuk staff Kenny Rogers ye...(and I wish if that you are experiencing the same, stand up for your 10%) dan juga pesanan manja untuk para-para pembaca yang meminta agar saya 'menelek' if depa tu ada 'gangguan psikologi'. Saya sangatlah arif tentang betapa malu nya kita bila kita rasa kita ni lain dari orang lain... Tapi...dah nama pun ko nak mintak tolong, usah lah defensive bila kita saran jumpa pakar tak pun ambik ubat kan? Again..I bukan psychiatrist/psychologist. CPN pun bukan. You nak opinion medical, you pergi jumpa doktor. Unless health professionals yang you jumpa you set-set pakcik or makcik Wok ataupun blogger yang suka cerita apa pesen orang yang dia jumpa atau bagi service, I believe what is said and done is protected under patient/doctor confidentiality. What I hope to achieve here is untuk kita sama-sama membuka mata dan hati pada yang memerlukan. Mana-mana orang yang ada masalah, memerlukan support network yang kuat. Support network tak semestinya ahli keluarga, boipren gilpren etc. Kalau you majikan, ketua jabatan atau kengkawan pada orang yang ada masalah, seeloknya, bagilah moral support gitu. Dan kalau you kerja kat Human Resources dan ada access pulak pada info yang sensitive begini, janganlah you pi kompang tak pun buat bahan gossip berceita dgn BFF ye? Just so you know..mental disorder is not contagious. You can only get infected with HIV if you ada transaction berupa insertion dalaman dgn pembawanya. Setakat salam tangan, berkongsi udara satu pejabat dan cemolot, idoklah nak jadi apa ye? Malu bertanya..sesat jalan gitu. Ni dah le malu bertanya..kaki kompang takde work ethic lagi. Sungguh memalukan dan sewajarnya you pergilah terjun lombong. Nama je sekolah tinggi! Okay..you asked me about Personality Disorder. Penyakit ni ada 2 or 3 category kalau I tak silap la. Yang I pernah kerja dengan islah those yang ada Borderline Personality Disorder and another one is Dissociative Personality Disorder.I think the other one is just Personality Disorder kot..(hello any consultant reading? Boleh vouch tak?) Thanks to google, we can get access to so many information. And kepada yang suspek dia ada gangguan personality tu, terus je google dan start lah risau yang bukan-bukan nah? Nak jumpa Dr malu. Tapi..I tak lah salah kan you...bila kita ni sensitif, kita akan rasa paranoia sikit. Paranoia ni adalah perkara biasa. Kaum pompuan kan sensitif dan bila kita nampak atau rasa laki kita lain macam sikit...takde kita mempunyai rasa paranoid yang membuak2? Elehh..takyah cakap pompuan lah...jantan pun sama. Tapi tahap keparanoid an tu terpencil lah sikit kan...sebab nak cerita kat kawan malu. Takut jatuh macho. Orang pompuan pulak...information sharing mmg patut dipuji gitu. Bagus ada support network banyak2 ni..sebab lagi ramai orang tahu, lagi senang kita dapat info kan? Tapi..I sangatlah tabik kepada yang sensitive ni. Sebabnya, dia terlampau sensitive akan 'kelainan' dirinya dah dia tak nak lah pulak dia tu besok2 akan menjadi beban kat orang lain. Betul tak? Some of us...adalah terlampau concern sangat dgn orang yang sakit ni. Err, makji..my fren ni kan..ada gangguan emosi sikit and dia terus recluse himself from the world and shut people out completely. We are very worried, kata you. Perlu dingat, when we are close to someone, we will somehow know how is he or she naturally. Adakah dia tu bangsa semua benda nak cerita kat orang ke or dia bangsa cerita sikit2. Kalau dia tu bangsa kudis gatal kat bontot pun nak bagitau mak dia, maka bila dia tetiba shutdown tu, kita patutlah berjaga-jaga. When I say jaga-jaga tu makna nya..observant lah..bukannya setiap langkah orang tu kau nak check. In some cases, you katalah orang tu refused your help lah etc etc. Maybe it is now best that you take a step back. Orang tu refuse treament ke, refusing you sebenarnya? People with emotional problems mostly experiencing something that they don't quite understand themselves. You pushing them to open up to get help sometimes is not going to help them. You will get frustrated and so will them. Macam kalau kita ada anak bermasalah lah...kalau anak tu mmg set-set tak rajin nak ngadu, jgn lah dok setiap minit,oii habaq lah kat mak apa masalah hang. Tak ke dia rasa nak lari dari rumah..tak pun nak tikam muka hang? Talking about being in their face..literally kan? Majority of us think that personality disorder is something like, pagi ni dia Seripah Aini and malam karang, dia bertukar jadi Salamiah Hassan. Well, sort of but knowing us, we like to resort to something extreme lah sangat kann? Trust me, we ourselves will have minor episodes of personality disorder too. Maybe not as bad but yes, we all do. We ALL have mental health issues ye. I have somebody who tells me about her marriage to a husband with mental illness and the illness shut people away...her included. Listening to her stories, has arouse my suspicion that maybe it was her that pushed him. We sometimes quick to judge people sudden changes to 'tak centre'. Common stories we heard, my husband went away..and he came back a different person. Chances are, when he was with you, he lose sight of his 'original' self. Get away, regain another perspective and realised that, you are bad news. Is that 'mental'? No lah...tu case season change..people change. Another thing we must know about people with personality disorder ni, be it borderline ke, dissociative ke...depa tu social skill kenkadang ter affect and susah nak maintain hubungan dgn orang ni. You might wonder why kengkawan you lari. Selalunya orang yang lari ni sebab orang tu dah tak larat and dah tak tau apa nak buat dgn you. Ada orang nak jadi kawan saya. Kita ni kalau nak berkawan dgn orang, kenalah mengamalkan konsep gearbox kan? Gear satu...getting to know the person...dan gear-gear seterusnya. Ni tak, you cerita hal laki you lah, hal boipren you lah...and because I don't really know you, I am at lost to what to do with that information. Like, siang tanya I if I pernah pergi sembahyang Jum'ah dak then terkenang2 masa kat Tanah Suci dedolu rindu pastu malam gi cerita dia pi naik motor dgn boipren sampai eksiden. What do you want me to say? Bila I diam, tanya pulak..you marah I kah? Errr. I always believe that until you are comfortable enough to dispense information about yourself, it is always best to keep some to yourself. Inadvertantly, we give out our weakness and too bad, we got judged. Failing in relationships, although naturally will make us feel like a failed loser but if we confront it with an open mind, it will be an opportunity to gain back confidence, to set what was wrong to right and to set on another journey...alone or with people. Last word of comfort, yes..if you think you may have personality disorder...there are some great ways to uncover the keys to this disorder and thay may mean that living a normal life is very possible again. ------ni ayat yang saya copy dari poster kat bilik consultation saya. Hiks :)