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Thursday, October 30, 2008

The Past, The Present & The Future. Worthy Battle?

One of my close friend bumped into her husband ex while we were out measuring roadway kat KL recently.

Nilah susahnya kan...if you go to the same school or university same with your hubby.You obviously have access to segala sejarah silamnya,including who he dated before you. Pengajaran...jangan berchenta dengan rakan seperjuangan.Berchentalah dengan orang yang takde kena mengena dengan you.This is the only advantage budak TKC has.Unless if you're practising lesbian, of course.

Kawan I ni...takde cacat celanya (eh..macam aku pulak yang berdating dengan dia) but since you pun tau sejarah hidup laki you macam Encyclopedia Kanak-Kanak, she knew the extent of the romance tak jadi lakinya tu.

Her laki pulak...not sure if being a wind up merchant is one of his specialty (selain dari mempetronas service bini nya) suka benar menyakitkan hati bininya dengan sengaja membuka sejarah lama.

Mulut I yang puaka ni, nak aje cakap kat my friend ni..kau ni bodoh lah.But mulut I memang puaka and I did tell her that she is stupid, menyesakkan akal memikir hal tak perlu lakinya.

The story was, laki and his ex, berchenta for 5 years...tup-tup laki kena hantar kat University yang sama dengan my friend ni (bini nya sekarang) and his ex, kena hantar kat tempat lain.Of course when you're young (and stupid) chenta 5 tahun is sealed as chenta maut, tak sedar yang kalau the chenta cannot withstand the distance is as good as chenta monyet because like monyet, you are free to bersenggayut from dahan to dahan.

In the end, pasangan chenta maut ittew married different people.The guy married my friend and the girl, married tahsapa-sapa jantan yang coincident nya, satu aliran pekerjaan pulak dengan one of our friend (not the one yang I cerita ni..tapi kawan rapat lah jugak)

I pun tak tahulah...apa hasilnya menyelongkar cerita lama but apparently her girl punya laki, ada jugak cuba usyar-usyar nak tahu pasal my friend's husband ni through his colleage yang juga our friends. (Don't worry, aku pun pening menulis nya)

Of course keadaan geography Malaysia yang kecik ittew menyebabkan everyone happens to be everyone's friends and they (the couples) ada jugak terjumpa-jumpa kat majlis-majlis reunion ke, hapa ke...(pengajaran...masuk alumni ke, Facebook group ke dengan budak satu sekolah you is not necessarily a good idea)

Bila dah jumpa, mengata.Baik yang jantan-jantan nya pun.Of course lah bila jantan mengata or bergossip, the matter becomes bak air lalu yang tak memberi makna but to my friends ni, sungguh terusik self-esteem nya.

I don't usually kisah masalah orang (you might say, wow..that's a change.Bukan ke orang yang kerja macam kerja I ni suka dengar masalah orang?) tapi kalau masalah orang tu mengganggu gugat my day especially when I am trying to enjoy a nice Ipoh White Coffee, panas lah jugak hati I.

Okay.You berchenta maut dengan si polan-polan.Bukannya you kena tipu/tinggal tanpa alasan macam I.You're hardly frust menonggeng (macam I) so buat apa lagi you nak sibuk-sibuk pasal dengan siapa sipolan tu kawin?

Yes.It is nice to gossip...gossip sikit-sikit okaylah...tapi kalau sampai serabut kepala, apa ke hal nya?

There's always a reason why you past did not make it to your future.You're presently happy...maybe your laki is a little bit annoying but apart from that, do you really want to think about his past,talk about his past when you bumped into his past?

On top of that, you are also interested to know his past punya past and sanggup pulak jadi CSI tanya situ, korek sini sana.

I have seen so many emotionally disturbed people...this is one of them.What is sad is because it is over something gravely petty.Believe me, your feelings will mature with you.You will experience a change of heart. Your past love life maybe so intense it can lit up a bonfire but if your feeling isn't there anymore, there is really nothing to worry about.

So ingatlah, walaupun laki or bini you berchenta persis Romeo & Juliet with his past sampai ugut nak terjun-terjun jematan..remember this, they're the past.Nobody terjun jematan pun in the end.You're happy now...anak pun dah dua 3.It's okay to reminisce...apart from that, it is just zilch.Get over it.

4 comments:

[danial][ma] said...

hej! hjh.esah...that's true, the past is passed away already..enjoy the life now and then...;-)

Manal said...

I think my makji, its more like dendam dipusara sort of thing. That deep grudge yg ko mmg sampai bila2 tak sanggup tgk ur ex-bf kawen dgn saper2 pon....and samalah dgn those gila talak yg jugak gila jealous tgk his/her ex married and happier with their new hubby/wife. I knew a few of these people around too meself...yg masih nanges2 bila calling2 their ex. I dunno whether this is some sort of conquest that even if it no longer yours, you still claim it like u've never lost it before...

Dunno la makji...u r damn right, "get over it"!

Anillynnette said...

You said it. People change. Hearts will change. Give it time. You won't die from a broken heart macam orang jaman Victorian dulu. People are more physically and mentally (kalau memeng takde mental problems) resilient nowadays.

Kalau semua orang boleh mati sebab putus cinta dengan their so-called cinta agung, agaknya separuh worl population will be decimated by now because we all go through it, and we have to deal with it like adults.

Anonymous said...

...please where can I buy a unicorn?