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Friday, October 24, 2008

Make Sense Of Your Problems

Lupa nak bagitahu..ish, macamlah ada orang yang bertanya pun....that we in this Department (where I am currently attached to) adalah sangatlah digalakkan membuat kerja-kerja community yang tak bergaji...seperti menjawab panggilan-panggilan kecemasan...I'm not sure if this service is available in Malaysia but in the UK, it is called 'Crisis Line'.

So, setelah beberapa purnama menipu dan mengelat kat supervisor 'Crisis Line' ni, I pun sebab dah takde alasang..nak kata busy kerja..nanti dia cakap..ohh..kata busy, tapi boleh pulak pergi annual leave sampai 28 hari...so I agreed to sit in for 5 hours voluntary work...dengan harapan..takdelah orang sewel yang akan menggangguku...

Tapi...ada 3 caller you.....

Sometimes you can get those with their own problems. Ada tu pulak...masalah orang lain..like their friends and family yang they all kononnnya nak tolong selesaikan...or something of others that is affecting them direct and indirectly. Yang nak I umpat bukannya masaalah they all tu..but I sometimes wonder..betul kah yang tukang tanya tu tanya untuk orang lain or sebenarnya malu nak ngaku diri sendiri yang huru hara?

Problems is everywhere..dalam sokabar la..dalam telephone la..dalam radio laa..dalam TV laa....

I don't know how to explain to you this but i usually know what genuine and what's made up.

Ada orang problemnya..her friend is a constant dieters who always talks about what she's going to eat, or can't eat everytime they go out. Her friend ni will point out that she (the caller) is eating something calorific.Satu dua kali takpe..but after that it gets on her nerves. She said that her friend was anorexic in the past and now and then if dia terlebih makan, she will diets freciously. The caller ni kononnnya can't be bothered with any diets and find her friend's obsession is annoying.Tapi demi nak jaga hati kawan, she don't want to make a light of it yang si kawannya ni has a problem.

I don't know about you..but I really (maybe envy) hate orang yang bangsa takut makan ni...if you have a valid reason like takut makan ni pasal allergy or any health complexity like makan kambing then kena heart attack, then is bearable.Eating is a way of bonding...apart from exercise yang lain-lain...the casualty is you put on a bit (and more bit) of weight but uncounsciously, if you agree to go makan-makan, does that not tell you that you sebenarnya nak melantak? I must admit, I am one of this anti-social malu tapi mau pelantak.Orang ajak makan..I jawab..alaa..aku dah debab la...tapi pastu..hey, tolong masak nasik lemak.Apo makno eh tu?

It is very unfortunate that you have to keep your opinion to yourself doing this job...and so, I was careful supporting her plight...

It is obvious that si pemasaalah (the caller or her friend) is worried about the weight gain and the reaction is to seek assurance from the other person and that she is right to be concerned.You hide your true feelings and appear to take her problem seriously.Of course, your apparent concern reassures her and makes her feel justified in bringing up the subject.

My advice would be...kalau sipengomplen makes an anxious comment about food, act as if you don't hear her. You could say something like...there is so many interesting things to talk about...

If you wish to be totally direct, you could tell her that food-related conversations aren't really for you and would you please talk about something else?

You must remember...the person we find hard to convince is ourself.Being vain is okay...tapi kalau sampai takde benda lain yang nak diobses...tu gilo namo eh...

Another common problem you heard is that your partner says he/she doesn't want children. If a lady called, she will say it is her pakwe..vice versa.But you really don't know siapa sebenarnya yang tak nak beranak ni...

Macam ni lah...assess your relationship....how long have you been with your current partner and how old are you now? Kalau baru kawan/kawin and tetiba broody, you really wnat to think that having a child is not a small thing.You're still young...baru dua puluhan.Not many men or women are ready to be tied down with kids.Commitment with each other pun kira pengorbanan besar..ni nak berkorban lagi untuk anak.Talk to your partner nicely if you're not ready and that you still have time.

Tapi kalau dah kawan/kawin bertahun and umur dah dekat tarikh luput for producing...maybe it is best to give your partner an ultimatum.Nak tunggu apa lagi? He/she know what a baby is...if he/she not sharing your dream and enthusiasm and not even willing to compromise, carilah yang lain.Habis cerita, kan?

Para-para parents pulak, problem nya..is it okay to have a favourite child? From what I think, it is totally normal to find some people including children,easier to get along with than others,although such preferences may change with time. When we talk about interpersonal attraction, it's intresting that likes do not generally attract likes. We tend to prefer people with temperaments complementary to our own rather than the same as our own.At the same time we gravitate towards people whose values and outlook are more like our own.We tend to dislike those with personality traits that we wish we could change in ourselves.

If you're willing to- and d0-make sacrifices for and extend yourself for the good of your children and show that you love them both.I think (not that I'm a parent or an expert) it is best to treat this matter lightly.Let your children choose which of you they want to be with whenever possible.Remember, if you're finding one of them difficult, he or she probably feels the same way about you. You musn't worry if this is the case. Child may not favour you as much as their father or mother, but they do love you the same,only they will find it easier to express their feelings to the other one.

I know.

8 comments:

Goddess Selene said...

makji, mak masak nasi lemak harinie!!!! *tgh sakit perot makan sambal pedas!!

p/s: happy weekend uols!

Lee Novotny said...

Noks, mak pun takot makan..tapi tu depan orang tapi belakang orang, melantak tak hengat, so how???? Hiks....

p/s Eton Melanton tu mak hoi dia nyer feveret child..sapa lagi kalau tak Billy!

Goddess Selene said...

Eh mak pon sama mcm MakLeemah!! Depan org ala2 malmalkuch nak makan konon.. Tapi belakang org, mak melantak tak hengat donia!!! *matila sesama terburaian abdomenkiew!!!

P/s: Feveret child mak Billy, tapi mak slalu rotan dia! canne tuh?

Typhoon Sue said...

eeii...aku ni allergic le dgn org2 yg kontrol makan nih... aku bedal hapa saja yg ada dpn mata. kat belakang mata pun aku bedal jugak....haha
sib baik bukan aku yg kena melayan panggilan2 telipon tu. klu tidak musti dah kena maki diaorg tu

captainlukman said...

ehhhehhhh i pun sometime malu2 jugak Pnzaiton n lee, tapi tgk keadaan lah kan, kalau aku lapar, aku tibai je....takda nak peduli pungs. Nak-nak kalau makanan tuh sedap yg takda kat doha ni, lagi lah licin.....


lapo lah plok , nok nasi lemok se???

Lee Novotny said...

nasik lemok Etong Melangtong??? Merasalah pedih sampai ke pinggir pinggir LJ! **ops!

Manal said...

1. Endless guilt-ridden: patut kasi hypnosis therapy jer. Patut hantar jer diorg bootcamp at those famine-stricken coutries. Baru tau lazatnya those carb food.


2. Conflict of interest: might as well kawen those younger mak budak or bapak budak yg dah kematian spouse masing2 or divorced. That way u wud know that he/she are into kids. Ini termasukla awek2 yg bela budak like angelina jolie. She made adoption sexy or so it was that made brad pitt fell for her in the 1st place?


Speaking of which, I had better to start my gym activities soon! this weekender openhouse activities seemed to have helped me putting on weight!

Hjh Esah Jolie said...

hahahahahahah.....tak tau nak kata apa!