Nasihat Untuk 'Kawan' You

I suka dapat email. Bukan lah email spam cam haram yang kata ada orang tinggalkan 18 juta untuk I sebab tah sapa2 mati dalam eksiden lupa nak bawak duit diorang tu mati eksiden sekali. ---sial kan email cenggitu?

I suka baca email berupa email mintak nasihat gitu. Kadang2 tu tak tahu pun nak bagi nasihat apa. Nak nak yang ada relationship problem tak sudah-sudah tu. Kepada yang tanya soklan

1. Apa patut saya buat pada laki yang cam binawe with all the list of his bad points
2. Kawan saya yang saya suspek bakal nak merampas laki saya

Sorry lah ye, bukan makji nak menyombong bongkak tak nak jawab email you...but, if you can think of all the bad points over weighing the good, perlu ke nak tanya lagi? Kalau takat nak mintak validation I, okay la...I'm honoured you have me in mind but problem you all sungguh lah no brainer, okay?

Sudah-sudah...you all ni set-set mencari perhatian saja. Dah la menyorok bawah nama anon, create email pun anon. Banyak lagi kerja sosial penting yang I boleh buat dari melayan masalah kacang putih (cehh..sombong nya I) uols.

Next.

I particularly quite like those of a concern friend of their troubled 'friend'. Makji, nak mintak pendapat you tentang my fren yang cenggini...cenggini. They seems to know every little details of their friend's problem, wa tell you. Their representation of their friends sungguhlah patut dibagi full marks gitu.

When it is quite obvious yang sebenarnya bermasalah tu adalah dia. Hik hik hik.

Tell me, siapalah yang suka menunjuk kurap ayam diorang sendi kannn? Hina kah ber kurap ayam tu? Takk..tapi kalau orang tahu kita ada kurap ayam , orang juga akan tahu kita ni pemalas mandi serta pengotor nak mampus. Bad enough ada kurap ayam, perlukah nak advertise bad personal hygiene lagi?

Can I ask you the 'kawan' kepada 'kawan' yang bermasalah, malu sangatkah kepada kekurangan diri? Ke you takut orang chop you bodoh? Which is worse?

Kalau lah kita ditipu, adalah kita marah kerana kita ditipu atau kita malu sebab kita ditipu?

Making a new friend can be as exciting as taking up with a new lover. You may find that you want to spend all your free time with them. Some friend, that you chose can be privy to all your secrets and plan, will allow you to admit your failings without being judgmental and will support you in your hopes for the future.

If something bad happened to us by this friend, maka to us, dia lah psychopath. Yes, you actually must think that.For them to actually berjaya membuat kita pulak rasa kita yang psycho, maka well done lah kepada 100 carat psychopath tu.

If there is going to be a good advice then it should be asking you to move on. When bad things happened, if we came out alive, the best to do is to think what to do next. A good friend is a friend who cares about you but NOT the type who make you believe that they are a better friend to you than anyone else. This discipline if you like, can be applied to your laki/bini to.

Bila kita berpacaran, berlaki an dan ber bini an, masa adrenaline tgh tinggi mencanak tu kita rasalah ohh, this is the best. Tak ye uols. Kita je yang rasa camtu. Dia bagi kita beg LV maka dialah boipren yang terbaik sampai mati. Padahal kalau BFF kita kalau berduit lebih boleh je nak bagi kita LV, Gucci segala. (kawanlah dgn anak Sultan Brunei ye...dapat purse Hermes cam dapat chocolate tau uols)

Siapa tak suka good news story? Laki yang loving dgn bukti bergmbar untuk tayangan pesbuk, kemanapun pergi nya, kita selalu berdua bak kata Sila Majit, tup tup orang tahu dan terbongkar yang relationship kita yg perfect tu, laki kita yang nampak macam loving tu sebenarnya Jin Aprit.

Perfect relationship lah sangat kann?

To get devastated by the betrayal, is a completely normal response. Jatuh sakit, emosi terganggu etc. Who would have prepared for this? So what if you have been betrayed, suffered the effect of the stress physically and become disorientated?

Rasa aje nak mati..tapi tak mati. A friend of mine lost her husband so suddenly she was so sad she told me, aku rasa nak ikut dia mati. Diulangi, rasa. rasa nak mati dan mahu mati is two different feelings. But of course, separation by mati is different than kena tinggal sebab kena tipu. Orang mati takyah bagi you explanation apa-apa sebab dah tertulis kat surat mati nya. Kena tinggal dan kena tipu ni, banyak persoalan yg akan timbul, apsal kau tipu, aku ni dah tak bagus ke, what happen to our janji nak sehidup semati brok brek. Yes, boleh gila.

Yes, fikiran kita terganggu. Apa salahnya kalau fikiran kita terganggu pun? Kita terserempak hantu pun menganggu fikiran jugak kan?If you can't cope, you get help.

Yes, get help. Bukannya menyeksa diri. Tak payah guna namaganti lain. Masalah you hanya you aje yang tahu terangkan..bukannya 'kawan' you.

You will get better.