This Is Your Life....My Friend.

Lelawati...(nama sebenar tapi you all tak kan tau lah siapa sebenarnya dia ni sebab berlambak orang dalam dunia ni namanya Lelawati) adalah bekas rakan sepermainan saya. Like any other Garrison girls, we play every innocent games any girls our age would play...so Kiah, kalau kau ingat rakan sepermainan itu hanya bermain benda-benda yang mungkar...I think you must be mistaken us for bebudak TKC (yang suka bermain-main sesama sendiri ittew)

My relationship with Lelawati is a bit hit and miss. Lelawati a careerwoman with a career in her opis and a career in her another opis i.e. partnership with her husband. In her real opis, Lelawati is overseeing a big department with 15 staff and at her another opis, she and her husband has produced 3 kids and of course, overseeing them as well.

Lelawati hardly ever talk to people...and her hubby is one of them.Once in a while she would email me tanya khabar.

Couple of years ago when she was pregnant with her 2nd baby, she came across something that enough to make any other pregnant wife homicidal.Lelawati was away on a course and hubby was looking after their kids.Lelawati said that one night when she was away,she dreamt about her eldest son crying. So she came home a day early than expected.Balik rumah dekat nak tengah malam..and being the mummy that she is, of course lah sebelum mencari laki, misti nak check on anak dulu. Her anak was okay.

Then she check on their Bapak...suffice to say that their bolster is nowhere to be seen but have now been replaced with a human body and the Bapak is on top of her.

Lelawati never said anything to anyone...and after giving birth to her 3rd baby, she told me that she is leaving the husband. This is only recent.

Because she mintak cerai, the hubby pun apa la lagi..terus mengamuk and began his smearing campaign.Lelawati ada affair lah...dah tak sedar diri lah..lupa rumahtangga lah..tak kenang jasa lah.I don't know if this is typical but lumrah jantan, bila apa yang dikendong bakal berciciran...mulalah terjadinya adegan-adegan menghoyan.Tak cukup dengan menghoyan 24 jam...the husband telah mereport kat mak ayah mertua nya (parents Lelawati) hah kau, habis seisi keluarga Lelawati sekarang dok pakat memulau pinang kan Lelawati.

I am very honoured to be one of her trusted mate and she told me everything. Lelawati is concsious that she is about to lose everything...the kids..the harta sepencarian..and everything they owned together.Lelawati even told me that the Mahkamah Syariah even tell her off for wanting to mintak fasakh.

They ridiculed her reason....they said...dah takde perasaan kasih sayang is not enough to warrant a divorce.

I asked Lelawati....is it because of what you saw that you decided to end your marriage? Tidak katanya...memanglah masa nampak lakinya mengongkek pompuan lain dia rasa nak parang laki nya tu. Tapi..hati masih cinta katanya...biarpun terluka.

Lelawati said that their marriage grew stronger after the illicit affair, probably the husband rasa bersalah and terkena penyakit 'giljap' aka 'gila sekejap'...(penyakit yang menyerang lelaki yang dah berkahwin) or the husband realised that too much is at stake here dengan anak-anak, harta, family etc. So both really made the effort to make a go of the marriage.

Tapi pada suatu pagi yang hening 3,4 bulan yang lalu, Lelawati bangun tidur and terus rasa menyampah gila kat laki nya.She told her husband and packed her bag. Knowing her weakness, laki kata you takleh ambik anak...and to his surprise, Lelawati kata...okaylah.They're your children too but I will still be their mother.They'll find me.Ceh...laki dah takleh cakap apa dah.

Lelawati see her kids whenever they want to see her and she now live happily alone walaupun segala manusia dah memandang serong kat dia.Lelawati told me in one of her email...'I don't know why...the feeling is no longer there and I just had to leave'.

Lelawati still never told anyone about the adegan Chua Soi Lek lakinya tu....

2 days ago, Lelawati emailed me....'I could have wait until anak-anak besar and find my own way...am I too selfish?'

I replied. I told her what I think.

'You have stop loving him after that night. What it was is a transition period.You took your time and you follow your heart.Kadang2 orang lain berfikir masa hati tengah panas...never gave their heart the chance to sejuk and berfikir.Maybe, the only selfish bit in this is that you didn't involved him in the transition process...and he is not prepared.'

Am I doing the right thing?

I suppose...it is him that you don't love, not your children.Don't be scared. This is your life.

(But I still think you should tell the world what a nasty piece of work he was...pergi bawak pompuan lain masuk bilik when anak-anak tengah tidur...)