When Women Should Just Shut Up

You know....once upon a time ago when Abby Adidas was this what his face wife and was two timed, she really mengaruk like mad. She go and serang the laki..and not only that, thanks to kepandaian dia pakai computer maka dapat lah dia meluahkan segala rasa kat media social kann?

But then it gets too much..sampai orang yang asalnya kesian pun jadi menyampah dan terlintas lah dalam hati kata..laaaa, patut lah laki kau buat cenggitu.

Then pompuan pelakon yang ber chenta pulak dgn laki orang tu. The fact of the matter is the jantan tu memanglah siamang..but his siamangness got concealed by suara-suara tak ferlu bini dan gilpren nya.

Gilpren rasa dia dipihak yang benar nak saman bini orang tu....hek elehh. Walaupun kau tu, katalah..di orat secara berhemah oleh jantan tu, but knowingly you are in such pickle situation, well, nobody will take it kindly kalau ko kawan dgn laki orang, biarlah kalau bini boipren ko tu gamaknya tgh koma kat sepital.

Tak pasal-pasal lah ko kena kutuk kannn? Kena kutuk dgn Mak Merah lagi. Mak Merah dah le kutuk dgn penuh emo.

Then you nak simpati lah kat bini nya....but hey, dia pulak sama naik kata..well something in the line of terseksa la laki kena hambik and they are on the verge of splitting because of his rowing eye gitu. But, kalau barang yang dah ko nak hantar ke charity shop, perlukah nak menangisi barang tak guna tu lagi? Dah nak bercerai dah pun kannn?

I think in her case, she might win millions applaud if she cakap...hah? she's welcome to him lah...dah puas dah I and of course, take him to the cleaners lah kannn? Toksah lah main berebut anak pulak...macam Abby dedolu (pre ambik gambot telekung matching) bila Memek bergambo dgn anak-anak dia.

Then you hear Abby and her 2nd marriage. Dah pulak kata budak tu tak matang. Dia matang sangat ke masa ko kawin dulu? Pastu pi ajaq anak hang pi buat video bodo pujuk pak tiri nya.

Syaddap boleh tak..syaddap?

As much as you all minat kat anak ND Lalat tu, mulut dia boleh gak tahan laju nya not to mention over nak mampus lah kannn? Lari dari umah, buat video upload yutiup. Wahh...inside kain also want to share ah?

Then to those yang segala macam gambo nak di share kat IG. Pastu marah lah bila ada orang tegur2. Hek elehh....dah ko volunteer segala info kau kat dalam tu, bila orang nak korek, ko boleh pulak cakap..hormatilah privacy saya...gittew.

Dalam melodi jangan kata lah kann....happy kot kena interview bila suruh buruk kan laki. Well, jantan jahanam memang patutlah diburuk kan ye uols....but save it for the Tok Kadi lah. Kalau ko dah bercerita sana sini dan become publicised, you think that good for nothing laki kau tu idok ke nak gunakan against you?

Selalunya..pompuan yang kuat komplen ni, bila dibawak ke muka counselling, bila disuruh bercakap..langsung takdak idea. Ye lah...dah pi bazir minyak tempat lain kan?

Here's to..bercakaplah bila perlu dan tepat pada waktu nya. :)

Ciao.

Penyakit 2 ke 3 Kali Setahun

How far should a woman trust her instincts on men? Where does truth lead to and paranoia take over? And what price is too high to pay?

Trust your instincts but don't react until you have validated your suspicion. :-) At least that's how I've rolled. :-)

Gitu mukadimah nya....

Hey uols...dalam flight bebaru ni....oh yes, despite everyone worries, I flew with MH. Ada kejadian menyakitkan hati jugak but Allah telah bayar cash memandangkan beg I tu sebenornya penuh dgn barang orang yg I tolong bawak balik, maka pegawai airport yang baik hati telah meng upgrade kan I ke seat upperdeck. Heeee...happy I.

Memula..seat sebelah I macam kosong..I pun rasa sangat happy lantas adalah chance untuk membuat macam private cabin sendiri but tetiba..ada sorang budak fomfuens telah memint kebenaran untuk duduk disana daripada pramugariks tu. Pramugariks yang terpaksa membaikkan diri sebab menjaga class upperdeck terpaksa la kata ye, ye tak?

The lady was so fidgety...kejap adjust itu, kejap adjust ini..kejap bangun..kejap duduk dn I perasan tangan nya menggeletar. Setelah kami selamat take off dengan senget dan lambat nya, maka dia pun start lah angkat engkah angkat engkah...hihihi.

Kerimasan (dan well, hate to admit that I am actually a nervous flyer too) dan oleh kerana peel adik tu telah menaikkan tahap anxiety I, maka I pun tanyalah...u okay? U want something?

Terus muka nya macam nak nangis uols...infact..I think she is welling up. Maka I cabut safety belt dan bangun, dan duduk kan dia. I cakap...you sit down...I can ask the crew to find you a doctor if you want. Terus dia no,no, no,no katanya..mka teresak esak dia nangis (secara senyap) dan kata..ohh I am so embarrassed ..I hate myself being like this.

Ape ke heyyy nya minah? Tapi idok la I bertanya...(sebab I bukannya kefocheeekhennn) but I just keep looking at her and tell her that she can hold my hands as long as she needs to.

Dia tanya..you a doctor? I cakap...err no. Thank god for that (cuba buat joke Chandler Bing la sangat)
So I cakap..you relax lah...and try to sleep ...so whatever that is worrying you can sleep too.

So dia dengarlah cakap I dan melelapkan mata...masih lagi pegang tangan I tu...resah lah jugak I masa tu..ye lah, how to eat kacang with one hand, kan?

Pastu dia bukak mata balik..macam nak bercakap pulak dgn I...tapi pandang tingkap pastu dan pandang I balik. I pun cakap lah...I don't want to know if you are not comfortable telling it.

Terusssss lah dia bukak cerita....yng dia ada clinical depression...dari sekolah katanya. Dia ni sekolah kat sekolah budak fomfuan yang femes tu. (patut lah pelik perangai ehhh?) Tapi katanya...dia takde mental illness..just kengkadang, dia akan rasa depress je...2,3 kali setahun gitu.

I cakap..okay. Dan senyum...dan cakap, tak apalah.If this is your 1st episode, then you have to wait for another two...if this is the 3rd one...well, hurry til next year lah.

Gelak dia. Dia Tanya balik..you think I am mad? I said..er, No. You're having your moments. It's up to you lah if you nak panggil apa...time gila ke..time sewel ka...

So we ended up berpokpek sampai airspace Lautan Hindi uolsss. Mukadimah diatas sekali tu adalah information yang telah sukarelanya dishare dgn I oleh this lady...and unsurprisingly, contributed to her excessive anxiety.

Tapi, sampai sudah dia deny dia ada mental illness and I pun tidaklah nak menjadi setan nak bagitau dia yang errr...clinical depression? Mental health? No?

I kan sudah dilabel suka buat fitnah...so, sekarang ni, kalau orang nak mengadu nasib ke apa, kita dengar saja. Tak suka dengar tutup telinga or pandang arah lain. Gittew.

So, post kali ini nak cakap pasal ni lah....uols pernah kah mengalami masa-masa depression yang hanya datang 2,3 kali dalam setahun?

Depression is ada 2. Clinical depression itu adalah sejenis penyakit kerana is terbit dgn tetiba. Kalau takat depressed saja...itu, terbit dari tekanan sekeliling kita pada masa tu. Kira, sendiri buat lah.

Clinical Depression ni dedolu kita panggil dia penyakit bipolar dan unipolar. Tapi since tahun 2000 kalau tak silap, istilah itu ditiadakan, sebab very ambiguous katanya...so ditukar kepada mood disorder. Ia..ianya adalah mental illness ye. Just because dia macam skit ulcer yang datang setahun 2,3 kali kita takleh lah kata ni sakit hinggap hinggp.

Ye, memang malu sungguh dan mengakui kita ada sakit mental. Padahal kita ada otak. Sama macam kita ada jantung. Nasib tak baik..jantung boleh tak sihat, kan? Serupa gak la dgn otak.

Biasalah manusia...manalah nak di associate kan dgn benda-benda yang memalukan?

I think some of us do suffer moments similar to this young lady....takdelah selalu tapi adalah jugak few times in a year yang kita rasa down sesangat...hanting2 hilang pun terbit rasa nak bunuh diri gitu.

Kalau ada, tidak mengapa. Ni perkara biasa...tak perlu lah makan ubat sebab kedatangan nya tak kerap. Cuma...kalau kita sendiri dah tahu kita akan mengalami saat-saat cenggini, siap sedialah dgn relapse plan.

Kenkadang...ni disebabkan keadaan physical kita juga. Badan tak sihat...badan banyak toxin. Ada yang sokmo komplen pasal bentuk mukabumi tapi makan tak nak jaga...bersenam...hmmm.

Pastu klau kita dah berusia sikit, ataupun org2 pompun yang mengalami gangguan2 area dalaman...period regular lah...tak regular lah etc, pun vulnerable to rasa-rasa tertekan jua.

Tidur banyak pun....tak membantu jua. Some people appreciate extra sleeping time to compensate hours they spent tak tido during weekdays. Tapi kalau kita ni terlampau suka tidur, nak kena ada power nap la..lepas asar nap la..tah hapa-hapa nap la..then, rethink. Sleeping is also another form of escapism.

You nak escape dari apa lah?

So kesimpulannya...kita memang dalam sekali dua dalam hidup ataupun setahun...akan lah mengalami masalah mental. What people did not realise is that...it is GOOD that we acknowledge it..sebab kita dalam keadaan sedar.

Yang tak nak mengaku ni yang patut kita risau kan.....hmm.

After this, toksah lah masing2 membuat kerja bodoh bak Sharnaaz Ahmad ex boipren nya si penyanyi tu....yang pi jadi baghal pi scan otak dia nak buktikan yang dia takde problem.

Ko buatlah segala mak nenek scan pun....your doing presently can actually manifest your state of mind.If you ask me, that boy needs professional help.

Cheerio.








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Just Saying #2

Bersama-sama pakar terapi yang lain....saya akan menggossip tak hengat para-para ahli persatuan otistik tu.

Saya bertanyalah....ape ke hal nya obsess benar dgn anak 'kelainan' anak memasing ye? Jawapan Puan Terapis tu ialah..laaa, kau baru tau ke?

Ahli-ahli kekadang suka bergebang sesame sendiri...somewhere between the line merasakan yang sebagai makpak, they 'know' everything. Then you wonder why, makpak tak berenti je keroje belajar jadi therapist.

Bebaru ni saya ternampak suggestion yang....bahawasanya makpak ni merasakan yang anak mereka tu tak dipahami masyarakat dan untuk memudahkan ....maka mereka rasa, meh lah kita berpakat buat T Shirt bagi anak kita pakai....I'm Otistik, Sila Pahami Daku. Gittew.

Diriku ni tak terkata apa lah kann....sebagai terapis, sebagai pekerja social...dan sebagai responsible adult.

Iya..saya memahami yang perjalanan mak pak kekanak special needs ni agak sukar. Nak nak kat Malaya ni. Dah le gomen tak lah menolong sangatt.

Tapi...kalau kita berpakat kata, anak saya otistik sila paham peel nya yang nak berapa nak sama dgn bebudak lain, maka apa beza nya dgn kita suruh mak mak janda dan pak pak duda pakai T shirt, saya janda/dua, sila paham yang kenkadang ada masa saya akan meroyan.

Or, kat makpak kita..saya ada Alzheimer..please understand me.

Eh mak pak, kalau anak kita Autistic ka..apa-apa ka...end of the world kah?

How sure are you the community will not judge? Habih tu...orang aje ke yang perlu nak paham 'kelainan' kau?

Perhaps...parents now should consider attending therapy, eh? Anak kau kena tegur dgn orang tak boleh...habis tu kalau dia berperangai 'lain'...we are talking lain yang negative...nak dibiarkan ke tanpa modification?

Suka benar kata..ohh Negara Negara barat orang nya lebih memahami...listen listen listen yeah..sebelum diorang sampai ketahap memahami tu, macam-macam benda diorang kena face ...here's news, takde pun depa pakat bagi anak pakai T Shirt I Have Autism Please Understand me.

Ngokkk la lu.

Anak Favourite

Okay..here's Cik Siantan in action number two. I don't do personal message ye Cik Kak...I dah pernah bagi personal treatment..kononnya lah nak appreciate kesungguhan orang tu menjejaki tapak kaki I kann..but lepas tu, terasa sempit lak dunia sebab selang selangkah I berjalan, adalah yang pulak bertanya macam-macam..apa I buat, dengan siapa..kenapa etc etc.

Wehh rimas! I tak pernah control hidup orang..so janganlah ada yang nak take control hidup I pulak ye...well, just because you have been nice kannn.

So, sipenulis ni. Minat jugak I baca problem nya but sebagai seorang yang neutral kerana takde anak (unless you want to count my anak kucings) I hope I helped you with your issue.

So, let's talk about favourite child.

It's the unspoken family secret you probably daren't admit it...well even to yourself. You favour one of your children over the others...walaupun puas lah you berkompang I love them all the same.

Preferential treatment is rarely acknowledged and seldom tackled. They maybe talk of Mummy's Boy and Daddy's Girl but I think it is more often used to describe the preference of the anak. Tengoklah kann..budak tu incline sayang kat siapa.

However, such unequal love can cause lasting damage. A favoured child is at risk kena cemburu oleh adik beradik lain lah kira nya...not only that, the kononnya less favoured will have less self esteem and mula lah nak menyalah kan orang.

For parents, as their child grows up, the parents may have their own ambitions for their child and be disappointed if they are not met. Parents have hidden hopes for their child to be talented and popular. I think sometimes parents tend to forget that although memanglah ko yang membuat budak2 tu, tapi budak2 tu adalah individu tersendiri, okay?

Often we don't know why we are tempted to love one child more than the other. Like any relationship there are times when you just seems to click with someone and share the same affinity. When I was growing up, I do things my father like...orangtua tu berabis duit beli Encylopedia...I lah dok menyelak-nyelak (you want to know how I know about all USA Presidents? )

So what if you favour one child more than the other? Natural lah kannn...sometimes I cannot understand all these fusses made by anak KKS yang dok la kata mak pak I tak sayang I.

Kan senang je..kalau mak pak kita tak berapa nak favour kita sangat, maka usahlah mengharap kita nak sayang dia sebanyak lori. Thing is, sometimes..there are feelings yang terbit dari hati kita sendiri. Kita rasa macam ni...and macam ni. It is up to us if we want to use this against us. So what lah kan..ko tak sayang aku (sangat) and I am feeling exactly the same.

Ada orang rasa, dia adalah perfect child, sebab dia dgn conscious nya tak pernah nyusah kan makpak nya. Feeling that, maka dia pun rasa dia adalah sangat bagos antara adik beradik nya. Well, how can you know that..unless you sendiri nak dictate kat makpak you yang I am this perfect child...berpangkat tinggi etc etc and tak pernh nyusah kan uols. Dan I jugak adalah ATM machine.

Hew..Hew..hewww.

Perasaan macam bagos ni...kita diskus lah dikemudian hari ye.

I think as a person, it is really our choice to feel kita ni disayangi oleh mak pak atau tidak. Someone told me..dia rasa pak dia tak sayang dia sebab dia adalah anak hasil accident. Maybe lah..I pun taktau lah kannn sebab idoklah pernah I interview apak nya, but judging from perangai pompuan ni yang sokmo merasakan dunia tak adil padanya, padahal berlambak anak-anak mangsa dera bapak yang lagi gulap gulita masa depan tidak pun mengomplen mengeluh sebanyak dia. So, you have opted to be so miserable and using that ko bukan anak kesayangan excuses, nasib kau lah kannn?

Sometimes s a parents, we bound to feel that we are not close to that 'one child'. There's a child that hardly demand your attention and another that constantly menaikkan darah. Of course you gave more time to the troublemaker and by dealing with it, you may feel triumphed. Ye la..kalau anak tu malas belajar, ko gasak sampai dia rajin, tak ke ko rasa bangga? The quiet one will then go unnoticed as you don't feel that with him/her you achieved much as they have done it all without you.

But being the favourite can come with a cost too because knowing it can engender all sorts of guilt. Ye la...ko kan budak cerdik..makpak bagi lah energy lebih sikit..so yang tak berapa cerdik, macam keciciran perhatian gitu dan most probably not doing as well as you.

Yes, favouritisms hurts but you seriously can't help it. We have our own reason why we like one thing better than the other. However this feeling is best unspeakable....your kids, whether you like it or not, bound to use it against you.

It is in our nature to hurt others too...kan? Cases where you need your disappointment to be heard, you cakaplah benda macam, ye lah..mak kn sayang so and so lebih, and not me. Even if your mak sayang so and so lebih with obvious reason why (say..her first born kan?) and that fact doesn't even lessen her love to you, tetap lah jugak ko nak nyakitkan ati orang tua tu kan?


Sekian. Bye London for now.
 

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Bila Semuanya Nampak Macam Bagosss.....

This came through my inbox. Sesekali dalam bulan yang berwarna biru, I will take up Cik Sri Siantan role.

 

But jangan dibuat selalu ya...you know, as much as you ingat I ni kawan you and nak meluah masalah, risks are, apa yang I cakap you takkan suka pastu akan tarik muka. That's fine. Kalau kawan you tu set-set radio rosak i.e. bebalik masalah yg itu tapi action plan nya takda pun..maka jagalah hatinya dgn kata, okaylah..you nak offload, offload lah..I dengar je...don't expect my 2 cents la..since you are happy to hang on to your misery...longer.

 

The sender, is a married woman with two kids. Husband never show her affection but he is a good father to their two children. This woman recently met a man and fallen deeply in love for the first time in her life katanya (over tau...bila dah dapat gading bertuah, macam gading tu aje lahhh yang bertuah..padahal gading yang lama tu dah ko lenjan sampai beranak dua..ops!)

 

The woman said, she would love to begin a new life with him (the new man) but it would mean leaving her children behind. She is following the new boipren to his home country. She thinks this is unforgivable.(err, adakah boipren kak tu orang Nigeria kak oiiii? habih la janji manis miewww)

 

So you want to know what I think, eh?

 

First of all, I see 4 issues with you now, wahai pompuan kurang kasih saying...1) The state of your marriage  2) The impact of your choice on your children  3) Your new relationship and 4) 'What beginning of new life' would mean.

 

You said your husband show no affection or barely...what about you? Do you show him affection too? Or you memang set-set nak tunggu orang je buat first move? It takes two for a situation such as this to become entrenched. Reviewing your marriage is an option, though you would need to take the lead. Naturally most women would say...I soooo have tried all that. You know what? You actually haven't. Have lah in a way, but not much. Buat benda dalam keadaan hati yang sakit, where got work, mahh? To understand a person will take years. Even if you dok dengan orang tu sampai dia mati pun, you will still wonder why he/she do certain thing..kan?

 

This is a situation in which you have to balance what you owe to yourself and what you owe to your family...I mean, well, you are about to break up a family, kan? Leaving your husband, detaching him from his children (assuming you lah dapat jaga anak-anak munyit tu) would hurt both husband and children terribly. If you leave without them...well, I don't know how you will feel. Since we are discussing this, I don't think you leaving is the major problem to you, emotionally.

 

If you love your children no less, with or without their father in tow...there would be a stability. They will have their home, their father and your love, though afar. If you stay but are miserable, it would hurt them as well, particularly if they feel you sacrificed your happiness for them.

 

This new man, how well do you know him to sacrifice your convenient? Can you over-depend on him? Do you know about his family and friends in his country? You are together here, out of his context and it will be different when you move to his homeland. Have you ever discussed these things realistically?

 

Unless you tell us all, I am going to assume you fell out of love with your husband because he don't show you affection. Have you asked? Unless you are this egocentric who feel that love is a one way street, maybe we shouldn't bother about proposing project memikat suami, eh?

 

Like this ah, only you who knows what is the real problems here. Whether you want to try and revive your marriage, I am sure you have...thought it through. I think...for your own security, write down your options, the pros and cons of each, and also write what you would do if things don't work out. Imagine how you would feel in each case. You need careful consideration. Once you are sure, just go forward without regrets.

 

Words of advice, mistakes is a good reminder of a next decision making.

 

Babaiiii....

 

 

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Leg Control

Aman betul hidup bila tidak ada paksaan dalam blogging nih....cehhh tetiba sangat!

Menulis ni adalah satu activity yang tidak boleh dipaksa-paksa gittew. Nak nak pula apabila ianya hanyalah activity yang diamalkan secara suka suka. Nanti dari suka jadi tak suka la gamak nya.

Hari ini adalah hari berjumpa Boss.  Oh..disclaimer,  saya adalah ahli terapi yg sangat berdedikasi. Secara professional nya seorang ahli terapi misti me refresh 'tenaga' nya setiap 3 bulan. Cara me refresh ialah dgn berdiskus masalah kerja dgn supervisor.

Sepanjang bekerja kat KL, saya mcm terpaksa rela jumpa patients yg bawah umur. Honestly. ..merawat dan bekoje dgn kekanak bukan lah forte saya. Pengalaman tu ada...tapi pengalaman tu saya kurang gemar. Kekanak di negara homputis ni dikawal mcm menatang minyak panas. Tu belum ber dealing dgn mak pak mereka yg lebih kurang je perangai. Opsss.

Tapi one thing yg saya suka...kat negara homputis ni..makpak dia tak denial. Anak mereka autistic. ..to them bukan macam dunia nak ditimpa bah.

Homputis ni..sangat realistic dlm membela anak.  How the child might turned out. ..is not their main worries.  Gasak la kalau nak jadi kobau balau .

Jarang sgt dengar anak n menantu ada crisis. Sebab nya...masing masing tak payah nak impress sesapa. Bukan mcm family melayu kannn...ko nak anak orang tu...ko kena berkempen  nak bagi satu family dia suka kat kau.

Nak kata homputis ni tak sayang or tak protective kat anak2 depa tak la jugak. Bila anak2 depa ada potensi nak berlakikan kutu berahak...makpak akan luahkan la isihati depa kat anak depa tu yg depa tak la berkenan dgn boipren/gepren anak mereka tu. Tapi...bila isihati mereka tu hanya didengar bak angin lalu dek anak2 depa maka tidak lah mereka nak membuang masa bercakap benda yg sama, ye tak?

Kesimpulannya...dalam pada kita org melayu ni rasa kitalah bangsa yg paling mesra alam dan bertoleransi yg tinggi...kita juga mengamalkan sikap kronisme n nepostisme yg sama tinggi dgn gunung Kilimanjaro tu.

Apa tak nya....kalau bakal menantu tu set set yg tak reti nak mengambik hati kita, jgn le dia harap kita akan bagi dia our full seal of approval ye?

Hakikat yg susah kita nak telan ialah kita ni sebenarnya adalah manusia gila kuasa, dimana kalau dapat kuasa untuk menentukan siapakah yg layak untuk jadi menantu, confirmed kita akan mati dalam keadaan yg amat puas.

Kita rasa kita sebagai mak dan bapak dan telah makan terlebih garam dan kita harus dihormati bak President Libya gitu. Err...kalau budak2 tu bawah 12 tahun okay la jugak ko nak paksa paksa mcm tu.

Tapi kalau anak2 tu set set umur yg dah kuat kaki tangan nak lari dari rumah, masih ke lagi nak didik budak tu ala2 askar Jepun?

In a relationship too....bila kita adopt role yg sedikit dominant maka mula la kita berfeeling feeling yg partner kita tu kena dena cakap kita sokmo.

Disebabkan kita ni sangat penting dalam hidup seseorang atau pun sesetengah golongan manusia, adakah bermakna kita ni sentiasa betul?

Should we keep excusing our controlling nature as caring? Ohh...I care about you, don't want to see you get hurt yadidaa....

But somehow it is okay when we are the one who is actually the one who's inflicting the pain.

But trust you, me...even if we flew out to the moon and back, we will still oblivion to the fact that we are the control freak.

We make mistakes. ...okay. We will learn.  But others....cannot.

Have we thought about this?

Just Saying

Hello uols (yang tah siapa-siapa) yang dikasihi....nahh terimalah update I.

I am not going to start with explaining excuses...what that it has been a while since the last one. Of course there's things to do. It probably seems like nothing, but yes..there's many things.

Then I have fur-kids. A responsibility bestowed to me. Yes, I like to do things for people. Ada yang pandai appreciate. Ada yang...patut didoakan pergi mati. But the cats are my companion.

Talking about companion...there's those who make you happy. Ada yang, tak. Like the kengkawan...you need them. But there are times when you...have that arghhh not really feelings. 

I can only hope people enjoy my company. I am not easy to deal with...that much I know. Sometimes, I don't want to do things you like. At times, I don't like what you do. On good days, I will let it pass...you can say stuff to me that nothing in my bones finds it offensive.

But there are days...that the sight of you may menyakitkan hati.

As a person..it is important that we know these weaknesses of ours so that it will be easy for us tolerate the weakness of others.

People may see us....this tak kisah happy happy three bags full person yang katanya nak bukak penutup mineral water pun tak larat.

But there are times we are this control freak with Everest expectations. We have standards..we want things our way...because it is the right way. We think.

I have bad days. I have days when I don't mince my words. I have days when I feel so lonely.

I am currently in a place where I can be happy. Familiar environment make me feel at ease.Deep inside I think about my cats because I hardly spend more than a day away from them. I talk to the cats when nobody is talking to me.

Some people have endured unsavoury remarks...pick on their helmet, their lack of refreshing smells...and perhaps their androgyny style. When all this came in that joke package, you will  see that way. The light hearted way.

Some people took it all. We probably don't get over defensive as there maybe no truth in it.

I said to someone before, if you said something to people and they get defensive gila-gila...and, most probably, the blinkered truth is staring at them.

Well, be prepared to be called vindictive and never get spoken to again.

~Just Saying~