Menjawab Soalan....

Soklan awak : sorry puan hajah,well, i want ur opinion, im married, have children and have a steady job. but i always find myself, looking to my daily life as living a different person's life..sometimes saya akan tersedar n terpikir what was that...this had been going on for the past 1 year.saya betul2 nak tau, am i delusional or just im not satisfied with my life? i prefer the second thought just for the sake of an answer. but i wonder how can i test this condition or what ever this is.

Sorry lah lambat menjawab ya...saya ada tetamu minggu ni. Oleh kerana saya pakar bodek yang berjaya serta berhemah, maka sehabis aje kerja, saya langsung mengular ke pusat2 shopping antarabangsa kat London ni.

Masalah anda tidak berapa specific. You stated that..sometimes, for the past one year, you were living other people's life and not yr own. Then you tersedar.

When you said..you tersedar, can I safely assumed that the whole other people's life scenario is just a temporary fantasy? It sounds like it lah..to me.

Macam Kiah lah, most time dia berfeeling dia bini Aaron Aziz...tak pun, dia feeling dia bujang lagi..paling teruk, dia rasa dia hidup dizaman tentera Roman, bila mana dia sedang menjalankan duty sebagai pekerja sex zaman tu. Mak Piah pun sama...rasanya, separuh hari dia akan feeling2 bini CM, dilimpahi duit balak. Pastu agaknya bila ada komplen lavatory kotor, barulah dia sedar yang dia tu berpijak dibumi yang nyata.

Fantasy is one person escapism technique. The easiest one I would say. Harmless too. We don't always get what we want. Sometimes to make peace, we fantasised about it.  In a way, it gave us the essence, walaupun idok lah real to the closest thing.

Mempunyai fantasy yang kadang2 tak berapa nak masuk akal...tidak lah menjadi satu kesalahan. Habis2 pun kena ejek dgn kawan2...secara langsung terus ke muka anda tak pun secara cakap belakang. Cuba tengok wall FB kita...kadang2 wall kita dipenuhi oleh gegambor supermodel yang mengambik gambor mereka sendiri, beserta caption yang hanya kita akan selalu nampak di majalah2. Siapalah kita ni kadang2...kalau masuk megejin pun, bergambar sebelah bunga tulips ada ke orang nak tengok? Ada ke wartawan nak tanya kita apa feeling kita hari ni lalu memasukkan info tu dalam majalah untuk bacaan rakyat sejagat?

My point is, how ridiculous things may be, it might as well look real and feel real to you, for that spur of a moment. We have different thoughts. We have different sensitive buttons.

Pasal gegambar manusia yang ber perasaan dan ber fantasi nak jadi model tu, unless, if you Aaron Ajis you ambiklah gambar tgh berpeluh dgn caption..ohh meynnn..this is hot dan tak kan adanya orang meluat tengok and Kiah will buy the entire shelf, I should think.

My question now would be...

1. Surely we know what is fantasy and what is hallucination. Fantasy is something our mind can create, for whatever reason we wish for it to be created.  Hallucination is a real thing to its believer. People just don't get out of hallucinating. You can get out of your dream and fantasy, but to have your mind and the four walls telling you to shoot your foot, that is something worrying. Living other person's life (can I guess, you don't dream living bibik's life?) without any mean of harming your own real life, it's okay.

2. Delusional thoughts? Like what? People with delusion always believe that the wrong thing is right and vice versa. There is no telling with this one. People like me has delusional thoughts...thinking and believing that people who work in Jabatan Kebajikan Masyarakat is caring, helpful and put the needs of the vulnerable first. Kenyataan nya? Nak mintak derma pun payah..mintak loan bank macam haram...bagitaulah cause kita banyak kali pun. Contoh aje ye.

3. How bad are your fantasies affecting your life? Do you find that you daydreamed a lot sampai makan pakai anak laki dan diri sendi tak terjaga?  Selagi takde orang komplen...kalau berfantasi membuatkan hidup you sedikit happy dari biasa, teruskanlah. If I can say this...sometimes kita rasa kita happy...tapi sebenarnya kita tak. Nak menukar kehidupan diwaktu-waktu orang lain pun sama bergantung kat kita taklah semudah nak tukar kereta baru. Ada anak, ada laki dan ada mak bapak nak dipikir kebajikan nya. Yes, you might be unhappy and your fantasy of other person life, is your way to escape your unhappiness.

4. If it's bothering you, would you consider treatment?

Hope this helps bebeh....