Kisah Piah Kuat Merajuk

What is merajuk in English, Kiah? Banyak meaning nya...tengok lah time macam mana dia merajuk tu.

- whats with the long face..kalau siperajuk tu melonjongkan mukanya
- whats with the attitude...kalau tetiba perangai berubah menjadi cipan
- why are you taking it to heart....ni kalau yang set-set merajuk secara berhemah.

Why I say berhemah is when the perajuk is telling you kenapa dia berpusing 360 darjah dari manusia berciri Donald Duck ke arah Cinderella tgh berus lantai. Githooo.

I ni kuat merajuk. Mak aii....sometimes I pun menyampah dengan diri I sendiri. I sort of developed the perangai since small kot...terhadap appa or amma. See, I ni bukannya reti nak meluahkan perasaan. Bila tak terluah tapi tetapkan feeling nak luah, maka kenalah luah secara lain. Merajuk lah kannn. Buat muka, tak bercakap cakap dgn orang...tak nak makan etc etc...intention nya supaya appa and amma nampak lah. Nasib baik lah my appa tu kiranya berperasaan sensitip juga uols...kalau tak, mati kebuluran lah I kann...dah le I ni set set yang suka merajuk secara mogok lapar.

Posting ni tidak lah bertujuan untuk menyindir sesiapa but kalau ada yang terasa maka itu adalah di alu-alu kan. I cant help it kalau ada orang yang hobinya makan cili. Kadang2 you dont have to eat cili lah pun, makan je gula gula pedas pun boleh terasa pedas jua (ishh..sensitip la kau kan?)

Dalam perhubungan....kadang2 ada orang rasa merajuk adalah cara yang paling effective untuk meluahkan perasaan. Hmm...yes and no. Masa chenta tgh hangat membara, merajuklah kau macam chimpanzee, maka cepatlah perangai buruk merajuk itu disedari. Okay, ni berdasarkan kisah I lah kannn. Dedulu kalau I merajuk, orang tu sedar. Tapi dah dia pun macam azali berperangai syaitunn, dia akan cakap lah..ehh, you janganlah merajuk. Sekarang ni, merajuk lah I sampai muka bertukar biru, maka dia akan kata...nanti dah habis merajuk, bagitau ye. Celaka sangat, kan?

Bak kata lagu tah sapa yang nyanyi...merajuk lah pada yang sudi. So, kalau nak merajuk, pastikanlah target tu betul.

Merajuk can also be a representation of perasaan marah sipembuat rajuk yang mengambil jalan mudah iaitu, malas nak bertekak atau menegakkan kebenaran kepada orang yang kena tuju tu. I think when I was growing up, I saw it a lot. Appa tak suka something...dia akan buat lah perangai kaudu nya. Padahal boleh aje dia nak bagitau my mother pebenda nya yang dia tak berkenan. Tak...sebagai lelaki macho, agaknya dia rasa dia bertambah gagah lah kalau berperangai ropa itu.

Ishh...tak baik I mengata bapak I yang dah aruah tu kan? Dah tu...I ni bukannya ada laki pun. Boipren I dulu bukannya set set pandai merajuk pun. I cannot even remember any awkward moment dgn siamang tu. He has always been very direct with his thoughts. Cuma masa dia mengelat nak kahwin tu aje yang dia dok buat perangai kucing tak sunat.

Often in that married world of people who has taken that kind of risk in their life you heard, my wife/husband are not like he/she used to be. My husband doesn't talk, he sulks. My wife nags and nags. My wife gets overly sensitives. Bab bab mengondem spouse masing-masing, you wonder why they bother getting it together.

And why all of a sudden that people cant talk to one another anymore? Malas dah ke? Dulu masa belum kahwin, kalau ada dictionary or body language punya kelas, maka akan sangguplah masing-masing belajar. Sekarang it is always one person yang punya effort.

I always know of my reason buat perangai terencat akal...and that is to make the other person to notice me. Nak kata dia tak notice, dia perasan jugak lah kalau dia dah menyakitkan ati I..but sebab dia berkonsep dunia ni dah banyak masalah, so u takpayah lah nak menambahkan masalah yang sedia ada ni. Konsepnya si MC.

U can appreciate those yang tak reti nak bercakap....or those yang tak suka bercakap sebab pada mereka, bercakap tentang perkara ni tak mendatangkan hasil. Ada pulak yang malas nak bercakap sebab pada they all tu, ehh tak kan lah kau tak tahu. To be fair, ada jugak set hidup diatas bayu yang serba serbi tak perasan uols.

The longer time you spent with a person can make you stuck in a rut. You think you can know someone better the more time spent with them and not realising that either one of you have changed. As we progressed in life, we could have want something more than we used to. When the other person progressed, they might have see things differently.

We don't always realised this.

Life with another person is complicated. Life on your own is already with problems as it is. Two person together made two sets of world and complications combined. In laws, children...the people we socialised with also can brings problems too.

I don't do relationship counselling. To talk sense into one person is hell nevermind two. But I know that it is important to put you first. Idok la nak kata hidup ni kena berkonsep self centred ye..but to maintain your sanity, you kenalah jaga hati you dulu sebelum you jaga hati orang lain. Sebab if you lose your sanity, chances are you stand to lose other bits of sensibility too.

If the other person berasa nak buat perangai and expect you to memaham jiwanya secara telepathy, then best to tell them that it is either they start spilling or to pack it in, since you cant read mind. Kadang2 problem relationship ni universal. Bila dah berdua tu, ada banyak restrictions. Ye lah, dah duduk pun serumah, hati orang kena jaga jugak. Dah hidup bermasyarakat, reputasi sendiri dan laki kena jaga jugak kan. Tak kan lah laki kita ada kurap ayam kita nak pi cakap kat orang.

Untuk kesekian kalinya, masalah dgn laki or bini you, hanya dgn mereka saja you boleh selesaikan. You can ask friends for words of wisdom. Theres always two sides of everything...apart from kuih lengkong kaler merah tu.

If there is one person I like to sindir is those yang selalu overstepped the mark ni. Berkawan ni ada adab nya. Jangan ingat sebab orang tu bff you, you can have your fingers in your his/her life too. Jadilah kawan yang baik. Macam I lah...kalau rasa terlampau lama sangat ngusung bini orang tu, ingatkan sibini orang tu yang dia tu ada laki and anak, pergi lah balik oiii.

Yes, you need your friends. Because when things go bad, you will turn to them. But it is your wife/husband that you share your life with. Not friends. If talking is difficult, then try harder. You don't always have to agree on things but you can make life bearable between the two of you.

Dah, sudah sudah lah nak merajuk tak bertempat ye, Piah? Kita ni dah nak sama umur dgn Madonna dah.

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