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Monday, April 13, 2009

Update

This guy at work, yang memang telah ku suspect sedang mengalami mid life crisis left a message for me to call him. Urgent katanya.

We are not that close (I am not close to anyone) but when our path crossed (bila I pergi jumpa Makcik Pakiam) he will make sure that we should have coffee together kat area-area Holland Park tu, so that we can discuss about stuff. Dia ni pandai you all...takdelah pandai macam orang yang ada settee empuk tu but he is sure well read that I am so convinced that he knows everything. So I think, besides my father and Frankie, Pakcik ni memanglah pandai...kan ke I suka kawan dengan orang pandai, taklah aku nampak bodoh kan, Kiah?

I have not been seeing Makcik Pakiam for a while, as dia tu khabarnya sedated habis-habisan dengan Respiridal Consta ittew, but I was given a message yang dia dah balik normal unit dia and I can start working with her as usual. So I saw her last Thursday. But I'll tell you about that in my next posting...kalau kaki I tak sakit (what does this really mean, huh?)

So, during coffee, this guy told me about a woman he met and is much younger than him. He is very captivated by her charm and eloquence. (Aiyo...jantan bila tahap kegatalan dah tahap Ferrari, lembu menguak pun dikata jelita jua) Katanya pompuan tu dah kahwin. Si Pakcik ni pun dah kahwin jua. So, apa ke hal nya sampai gigih nak cerita kat I?

So, terpesona punya pasal, he asked her out for dinner and she has accepted, tapi sekarang Pakcik ni macam dah risau that he might jeorpadise their marriages (ehem..their? Seia sekata nampak?) Pakcik ni kata he just want to be friends, but he does not want any problems.

I tanya dia, can you not just go and have dinner without fussing about it? Maybe because you fuss, that's why you worry. So, stop worrying and eat lah..abis cerita.

Pakcik said my view is too easy. Because it is. I do it all the time, although I takdelah gi makan dengan laki orang berdua-dua an, selalunya will be selori of us, and majority nya memang laki bini orang jugak. And he still worry.

I kind of sense there could be more than just platonic date. I told him that a lot of affairs starts with two married people meeting up for an intimate supper. It's exciting, maklumlah, men can get fascinated with his new 'lady friend' at work, sophisticated lah, mungil lah...pandai menjahit lah...tak banyak cakap or cool, tak macam bini saya yang bossy yang kerja hanya tidur kat opis. But face it, a man rarely invites a woman out unless he fancies her as well. It could develop into an affair and complicate the friendship.

I asked him, will you tell your wife? Pakcik diam aje. So I suspect not but if you can tell her and she doesn't mond you wining and dining another woman, then fine. But only if you're certain you will never be more than just good friends.

I pun suggest, why don't you invite your wife as well, jadik lah couple friends kan? Tak katanya, as he think a man should have a female friends as well as a male friends yang wife takleh masuk campur.

Ade ke yang macam ni?

I suppose it is okay, kalau partner you extra sporting. I'm sure if it were me, I wouldn't mind as I really value my me time, so berpoyalah kau tanpa batasan and I can focus on watching Friends and Frasier tanpa bosan.

But the fact that this Pakcik is worrying about it, beg the question, adakah dia rasa dia perlu untuk re invent dirinya sebagai Mamat Macho and decide to ditch his bookworm clever guy reputation?

You never know with men, kan?

9 comments:

captlukman said...

haaaaa pakcik2 pemandu kat sini lagi lah, walaupun bini kat rumah,tp layover depan mata tetibe jadi bini...haaaa

Manal said...

Boohoo, kua dgn bini orang pastu tak sadar diri? Typical flirting with disaster and so la eastender.

Its not that its wrong to have friends from whatever sex and orientation preference but he needs to draw the line and think about the consequences rather than his kotek jer. After all, divorce case is one messy business.

Ina said...

Dear Makji,

Ini dah sah ada udang di sebalik mee...Rasanya tujuan dia cerita kat you untuk try hilangkan perasaan guilty conscious dia tu, biasa la men kan, nak try rationalise his actions la tu...hmmm...hampeh!

RiEya! said...

ala..i rasa dia memang suker la kat pempuan tu tapi saja nak tunjuk macho and nak justify perbuatan dia..tak ke pelik kalau banyak nau songehnya. Pasal apa nak peduli apa yg org pikir? unless kalau dia ada buat yg bukan2..

Joyah Sempoi said...

org lelaki ni mmg spesis yang sukar dijangka la gamaknya...tp apepun makji ttp best..

Anonymous said...

lelaki tu mmg terserlah dah kegatalannya, kalau dah tak nak ada apa2 dgn pompuan tu yg gatal nak pi berdinner bagai tu apa hal pulak...kalau betul niat tu ikhlas ha ajaklah bini kau sekali...jantan macam ni yg akan menaikkan lagi kadar penceraian di dunia ini...

dariku yg emosi lagi hehehe

yatie

Desert Rose said...

Esah,

Wei, species pompuan berhemah dah sporting mcm ko tu hanyalah 2% je atas bumi ni....

Karang jadi mcm reading prodigy ko jugaklah tu jap lagi...

Sapa susah? Ko jugak yg kena jadi agony aunty

Dina said...

rasanya klu dia ikhlas anggap pompuan tu as kawan biasa...dia for sure xde masalah nk bgtau ngan bini dia kan.

ni mesti kes dia ada sikit2 feeling ngan pompuan tu...dats why dia berat hati...

Diva PariTs said...

yerla makji, kaki tak sakit tu apa maksud dia?