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Sunday, November 18, 2012

About Takdir

It is my biggest bugbear bila orang...to me lah...menyalahgunakan konsep takdir ni. Ishh...this is other than the overstatement of Insya Allah.

Today...I saw comments by somebody I don't know likened me to a kaffir and feels that my faith and aqidah is diluted badly because of my location of abode. Well, this is another story for another day lah ye. Tak kuasa I nak memikir banyak problem dalam satu hari.

Speaking of takdir. Here is my story.

A friend of mine lost her life recently, almost immediately following a road accident. Shock. Shock. Shock for me. Me and her, not close. But we talk. She is the school librarian and she is known to be strict but somehow not to me. Because apparently, menurut sumber fitnah pada masa itu, we came from the same kampung. Hek elehhh..budak MRSM tak habis-habis dengan institutionalised racism nya.

Over the years...I come to know that she is working as a cikgu. I have known her to be super active in school so I was expecting that she should be...somehow...more than a cikgu, not that I think cikgu is not a grand profession, but teaching requires extra ordinary skills.Not that she has none..but..isk, susahlah nak explain.

But yes, she is a cikgu. She went to ITM to study something and later on re trained as a cikgu at some local Uni. So yes, she become a cikgu. We befriended again through FB and she was amazed by my transformation ---from a student paling diam, tak happening, I guess she is too polite to say that I ni takdelah berapa stand out sangat academically dulu..and to her me 20 odd years ago is a huge difference to me now.

My answer...as similar to same questions from schoolmates, is that...my rezeki. Lain-lain. I complimented her life, to me is an accomplishment too...happily married for over 20 years and with grown up kids. Kalau nak dicompare dgn I yang sokmo salah bearing. She said it was her takdir...resigning her future to submit to her parents wish...to marry a son of a family friend and her life just took off accordingly from there. 18 years old and kena kahwin. Dream of pursuing studies had to be put on hold or maybe never at that time. But she told me, it is what her parents wanted and it was...her takdir. I told her that I heard about her wedding when I was in PPP and did not think it was a real news sebab I told her candidly that I never thought of her of the cepat kahwin one...scandal pun tak ada masa sekolah tup tup kahwin. Again...is her takdir, she said.

Somehow her submission to her parents wish is rewarding. Idoklah dia dapat King of Swaziland or laki yang berfeeling2 majikan dgn bini sendiri. She somehow managed to go back to study and got her own career as a cikgu. She said she is happy and blessed. But she did say...that she hope anak2 dia belajar and kerja dulu baru pikir nak kahwin. She didn't want them to be like her. Macam bunyi resentment aje dengarnya...but I am sure she has her point.

Accident happened. She died instantly. Her family survived. We were all shocked. Condolences was pouring in. She was a very likeable person. I did my bit sending her Al Fatihah. Friends was talking about her young children losing a mother.

One friend said....dah takdir.

Wahhh.........tetiba, darah I menyirap. Minggu kematian my fren tu memang minggu kenaikan darah keparas tertinggi. In between kerja I yang kadang2 stress nya macam setan, benda yang I nak buat macam banyakla pulak halangan nya...and I pulak tengah gigih menjadi counsellor kawan I yang di emotionally abused dek laki nya, with takdir word digunakan untuk menutup kekurangan dia...so flag another takdir....sikawan I yang ini...dah memang takdir dia nak mati accident.

But pray tell me....kalau dah jalan kita patut bawak 40mph, dah diwarning jalan tu kawasan kemalangan tapi kita masih jugak nak rempit 110mph...ditambah dgn hujan, bila terbabas, takdir ke tu?

While I can accept takdir my fren ni dah tertulis ajalnya nak mati accident, bukan ke kalau sipembawak kereta tu menggunakan otak nya, dah tahu jalan tu jalan kampung tapi nak jugak bawak macam Ayrton Senna, accident can be avoided? I hope that the driver will now see that as a direct message from Allah, sebab anak bini dah komplen suka benar bawak kereta laju-laju, selfish tahap tangkuban perahu...kalau nak berlumba, pergilah circuit mana-mana, ye tak? Bukannya dalam kampung, selekoh tajam dan hari hujan.

I read in Harian Metro about org tua kena parang dek anaknya yg sakit jiwa. Relatives are quoting takdir. Kau dah tahu budak tu sakit, apasal tak buat apa2.

Can we, on a same account...bila baca cerita Mat Rempit mati terbabas....say that's the Mat Rempit's takdir?

Kebodohan manusia berotak yang masih baik fungsi nya...takdir Allah lah ye?



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7 comments:

Amin A. R said...

kadangkala perkataan "takdir" dan "kesian" itu memang boleh menyakitkan hati..

captlukman said...

condolences to kawan uols,.....

mak kembali dgn domain blog kau jua

Silver Fern said...

Takdirla sgt bila u were caught red-handed dgn pompuan lain dkt hotel pahtu u tetiba ceraikan bini u dgn alasan takdir kan? U cant keep your skinny dick in your pants.., lg u nak salahkan takdir? Human needs something to blame sbb xnak blame themselves.. So serba serbi salahkan takdir..
Sori makji, teremo kat blog u plak sbb i mmg menyampah when ppl started using takdir / will of God when somehing bad happened. I believe in qada' & qadar tp Allah bagi kita akal utk berfikir dan make rational decisions kan?
pfffttt..

Anonymous said...

1. Takziah untuk rakan itu.
2. Ramai orang menyalahkan takdir sebelum berusaha.
3. Sangat tidak elok mengkaffir muslim yang lain kecuali lah dia mengaku murtad. (Ustaz kat ceramah politik pun buat kan apatah lagi ustaz/ustazah facebook)

-Micha-

DBI said...

bukan ke kita boleh ubah takdir dgn usaha dan doa..dok gitu cik?

Makcik Kerabu said...

dah orang kita selalu di momok kan dengan takdir..penyedap rasa untuk masalah donia

Anonymous said...

Off tangent citer takdir.. nak ngomen eksiden tu ha..
A friend died of an accident juga. Kata orang, dia drive laju. Sebab, impactnya dasat.. langgar 2 pokok + 1 tiang yg kat divider tu.
Kata orang lagi, sebab hujan, jalan licin. Memacam.
Allahualam.
Tapi yg pasti, nyawa diambil tak kira masa. Tak seminit cepat tak seminit lambat. Kalaulah nyawa di ambil masa kita tengah drive? Sakit mati tu sakit sangat2. Yg maksum pun kata sakitnyaaaa.
Apatah lagi kita2 ni kan.. Teramat sgt kot hinggakan tersentak kaki di pedal takleh nak lelepas lagi dah..
.. huihh wa ngeri.. mati lemas pun ngeri, mati tebako lagik ngeri.
..ni wa doa hehari nak mati masa solat.. ameen.
(p/s .. yg wajib pun cupuih2, yg sunat pun pependek aje.. cecita kemain tinggi eik.. huuuu)

~j-me~