Uols yang dikasihi.....
Sebagai pompuan ni, our automatic answer to not knowing how a guy feels is to just blame it on how confusing men are.
Kan? Tapi adakah puak jejanz ni confuse uols? Entah lah...yang I rasa, depa ni suka nau buat-buat confuse or tak pun ada selective confuse ness gitteww. People (elehh..these people are men) always said that men is a pretty simple creature. Well, most men are..but kalau you pulak set-set yang terjodoh dengan fuhh-simpang-malaikat-44 punya cerewet lah jantan, that will be the different scenario altogether.
Nothing is THAT simple about man. Kalau jantan ni mudah, idoklah masalah seantero pompuan sedunia is ni is to understand their husband. Men are like iguanas most times and at their best of times. I ada kawan yang selama hari ni, kami dok memuji betapa mithali nya laki dia...my friend ni takyah angkat jari la nak melayan anak...pada dasarnya. But I tell you, persembahan lakinya dikhalayak family dan para kengkawan bini nya adalah lain dengan reality deme tu kat rumah.
Laki dia yang nampaknya macam tak banyak mulut adalah pak Cik Wok skala progressive yang amat suka menceceh dan membebel bila ada benda tak kena malah boleh tahan juga dalam department mengambil tahu hal orang.
Who would have thought?
They often fancy themselves as the one yang kunun nya typically straightforward and coolheaded. Kita yang dikata nya tend to be indecisive and unsure. Well, not denying that but mereka pun boleh lah tahan indecisive nya kan?
Menurut kata loyar Sabung Ayam, perkahwinan dalam erti kata sebenarnya adalah melayan kegilaan laki kita.Masalah pompuan yang paling utama ialah, we don't really say what we want to say. Yes, simple thing like that and we can't handle. Apesal, me also don't know sebab I'm so guilty of doing it myself.
Masa I ber chenta, all I want is my partner is to pay attention to me 600% walaupun mulut I akan cakap, it's okay, you get on with your things and I'll understand. Hakikat nya bila kawan tu ralit tengok House of Cards dan tak tanya langsung khabar sakit perut you yang you dok bagitau dari pagi tadi, adalah sungguh memilukan hati you. Pundek tol...hal Frank Underwood dia kesah, I ni sakit perut, ada ke nak tanya nak I picit, nak I sapukan ubat..or tanya can I just get you anything???
So when it gets to a crunch where you dah tahan dengan ketidakkesahan nya pada you, you will start mengungkit hal-hal tiada perhatian ni, the partner will just simply say...why didn't you tell me you nak I picit perut you? When this happens secara automatic nya kitalah yang akan nampak macam bodoh as we are trying to be petty and difficult.
Cuba kalau dia yang sakit perut...kita yang macam nak mati mengimport angin dia kan? Tu belum masuk lagi kepandaian dan kesanggupan kita menghadakan benda yang tak ada...yakni, kalau rumah takda pisang, sanggup kita meredah hujan malam mencari kedai menjual pisang. Ehh...tercakap masalah sendiri pulak...oops!
Tu kalau yang dalam perhubungan ye uols. Kalau uols pulak set-set baru berkenalan dgn jantan, your new crush may think your hot stuff at first, but you may scare him away read too much into his “mixed signals” or if you move too fast.
I have had my share of reading way too much into things and getting the wrong impression. dah la dapek wrong impressions, pastu kita pulak terbuat keputusan drastik disebabkan wrong impressions tu.
How many of us have to live with decision bongok takpun consequences of our decision bongok? Ramai uols. But what can we do about it now? Jadi bahan wallowing self pity lah sekali sekala kan?
We are good at reading signs. I doubt we read wrong signs. Crazy people have ways of making you feel that you're one or turning into one. So I nak bagitau, takyah uols bersusah payah learning how to know when you're getting the wrong idea or or learning how to stop or avoid it will save you a ton of heartbreak.
Men change their minds like anything. Yes, they have ability of moving their brain to the bottom of their legs and think on it. Not that they're able to read you like a book too. No. Nobody can do this. Even a mother can be deceived by their child...ye lah, you all nak argue pasal mom knows everything kan? How many of you had lied to them and got away with it?
The point I'm making is, there is no point to psycho analyse, after we have had so many problems of the same. In relationship especially.
Here's ceritaku cerita mu...well, this is my blog, so I am allowed, kan? Bukan macam sorang tu...wall orang pun penuh kisah dia.
You have read about how my relationship ended...or something like that, I can't even remember because masalah nya tahapa-hapa. But yes, yang I chenta macam nak mampos, yang tu jugak lah menyakitkan hati I. I have moved on. But I punya moving on pun, inclusives ocassional going astern. Macam laknat ye uols. So something happened 2,3 months back. So I am back to square one...ocassionally sakit ati. But I think we are both hanging on to what we love about each other.
Here's what you can do to cope, if you still want to. Uols kena ingat ye...kita ni kenalah merajuk pada yang sudi. I cakap ni bukan apa uols, kalau dah bertahun uols tu dilayan macam papan basuh kain...or only needed when it served certain purpose, u think again lah. Do not sell yourself short. Alangkan Syanie tu ada orang nak ye uols..walaupun almost always ended up with jantan gampang. The quality of the man is a different subject altogether. U maybe married to some siamang yang tak guna seduit pun but he send you occasional sweet nothing text. I punya other half tu, nak kata dia pandai memujuk idok lah...but I do get noticed. Quite a lot now. So it is bearable.
You can actually stop taking everything to heart. If he says he can’t do things for you at that spur of time, don’t automatically think he hates you. Maybe he’s just busy or maybe he just had something planned already. That goes for whenever he says “No,” too. Don’t take it as rejection, use it as a learning experience. Maybe he doesn’t like that activity or maybe he just doesn’t want to do what you asked.
Pastu kan uols, you can second-guess yourself and the things you do. This is arguably the most common way girls lose themselves when pursuing what they want i.e. a man. You’re really just making yourself crazy when you read the texts you sent him over-and-over again. You can’t change it, and he’s going to see it anyway. There is nothing you can do about it, so just trust your instincts.
Kalau that guy ada Pesbuk or group whatsapp, every girl on his friends list is not out to take him away from you. Nor that depa ada rahsia yang depa taknak you tahu. If ada rahsia pun bior lah uols..it is probably some bangang things that matters to them anyway. You should probably back off a little bit if you find yourself constantly looking at his pictures, friends list, wall posts and comments. You’ll start to take everything he says and does personally if you don’t, and you may even catch yourself asking him about it.
If you agonise over everything he said and everything you said back, you’re going to lose it. It’s as simple as that. You’ll only waste time twisting every word to mean 20 different things. Just let things happen and go with the flow. If it isn’t meant to work out, it won’t. If you really want to know what a man is thinking, ask him yourself. Don’t ask your friends, and certainly don’t ask his. Don't over analyse his moves and his every words or even what he post for hidden meanings. Just because you're doing it (sebab kita kan gila!) it doen't mean that he is too. Everything he says may not always going to be about you. Further, you shouldn’t assume that every word he types or says is negative. He might just be trying to make conversation. In terms of body language, don’t assume his gestures mean something when they may not in reality. You’ll end up questioning both his motives and your own.
So, I bukan apa uols...rata-rata nya kita ni dah meniti umur dan boleh mati bebila masa je. Mana yang dah ada anak, they are to think of too. This is too tiring...messy and memualkan. Yes, we cannot know anyone but ourselves better. If we value ourselves, janganlah menyeksa diri. Kalau dah takda value dan kalau si dia tu pun tak nak berusaha mencari kesalahan dia yang menyakitkan hati you, ingat ya...ramai lagi yang boleh dibagi peluang.
No one like to be proves wrong. Kalau dia yang salah pun...sedapat boleh dia akan mengaitkan you jugak. Tu jantan setan nama nya. I am not saying that we are always right..but there's a reason why we get set off on a wrong foot. Ya, we jumped to stupid conclusion or made bad decision..but, kalau kita ni dilayan dengan baik, takkan lah hobi kita nak jadi pompuan meroyan lak kan?
Siapa pi Sushi King, dia lah yang makan wasabe. Tu je lah.