Today's Thoughts

If I didn't respond to your comments...then I am sorry. I do read and appreciate them. But fiddling the blogpost through a mobile phone screen is like trying to swallow a vitamin supplement that is as big or little less smaller than that lethal panadol soluble. Macam haram.

I have been away. Balik 'rumah' sekejap. For now, rumah for me is still London....bukanlah sebab I ni lupa daratan ye uols...but London is the only place that have my name registered on it. My katil, lemari baju and all the things that I needs is here.

Then, in between balik rumah, I pi berpoya-poya. Yes, I spent time with people I really care about. I carved pumpkins for the first time. I witnessed the autumn..and the extent of it. Something that I wasn't able to do for a very long time sebab I ni dok membanting tulang aje.

Yes..I got over that anger...alaaa, the rage I got myself into dengan orang yang pi forward kat I gambar adik kerja bank tu. You see, there's plenty of irresponsible and insensitive people out there. Some of them are my friends. I have managed to dodge the grim pictures and stories all this time..ala, kat pesbuk kan senang..you tak nak tengok you jangan click. Kalau you dah tahu the usual suspect yang keroje nya rajin menyebarkan dan mengongsi gambar and cerita-cerita camtu, memang lah orang tu dah lama kena hide kann?

So bila malaun yang buat keroje tu dalam wassapdog, maka cara berhemah ialah meninggalkan group itu. Hish..kerana petai habis bilik air berbau kan? Too bad lah. Everything happen for a reason.

Okay..here's my cerita.

You got kawan tak yang sokmo mengadu domba kat you betapa dia dah fell out of love dgn partner nya? Sure ada. Kalau tak ada pun, I am sure now and again you see statuses flying about hinting people are going sideways....feelings wise.

Relationships ni payah. Kalau tak orang lain mengong, kita pulak perangai cam cipan. Ada kawan I ni dok lah kata the failure of her relationship is solely down to her...jantan tu jantan baik katanya, walaupun sekali sekala ada jugaklah perangai cilaka.

Then, let's just all agree on what can be categorised as perangai cilaka.

Have you been pursued by someone cam nak rak, until you pun cair hati so start lah going out together. Sebulan dua bulan happy...and few more months down the line..happy. World is your oyster lah kira. Pastu...start lah, tak bercakap..sentaps terlebih...hush hush sana sini situ. Kang bila ditanya-tanya, kita pulak yang nampak macam meghoyan terlebih.

Bila dah rasa bercakap pun tak jadi apa...startlah mengadu dgn kengkawan. Masalah can vary lah. Ada yang..tetiba rasa relationship dah takde sparks. Pandang kawan tu rasa macam pandang lepat pisang je (and you pulak not into lepat pisang)...masa bebaru kawan/kawin, tengok dia rasa cam tengok Kentaki.

Dah la set set Asia kita ni (spare lah benua ammapodi ye) nak ada open communication amat lah payah. To details your rebuttals to your spouse pun mulut rasa berat. Masalah dalam bilik tidur lah, masalah kurang communication lah...kang cakap kat bini, you ni macam tak hirau kan keperluan batin I, kena sound pulak...you tak nampak ke yang I ni dari pagi sampai ke malam tak lepas tangan buat itu ini itu ini? Kalau bini lak ngadu dgn laki akan kurang nya sentuhan2...buatnya dapat laki defensive mulut lahar pi kata you nympho padahal dia tu yg low sex drive nya, cemana? 

What couples and even majority of people facing relationship problems, tak kisah lah problems dgn bibik ke...refused to believe that talk could help. You talk it out with the other person. That would foster an open discussion instead of stopping at expressing your opinion.

Truth always hurts...tu lah pasal orang tak nak berkata-kata.

So yes, this pesbuk friend of yours yang sokmo ber conflicts dgn laki. Pastu in some blue moon, buat posting singing praise lah kat laki or boipren dia tu. Kita yang baca ni pikir, ohh dah elok lah agaknya tu kot. Syukurrr. You see, when we know of a good couple, tak kisah lah couple that looks good together or couple yang kita tau either spouse nya mithali gilababi, bila stormy weather nya dah reda, sebagai kawan, kita bersyukur lah kan? Macam Silamajit dengan Acis, kalau ada crisis, kita sedih la dengar. Dengan beruang dulu kita kata..ah it's high time lah Silamajit ditch mangkuk hayun tu. Dah rupa tak berapa nak hensem, perangai mematching ghope nya.

Having said all this, some people do look good together when they're together. But whether they can be a match made in heaven, taktahu lah.

Someone asked, what do I make of people who freely advertising their relationships, their whereabouts..their hal kain dalam?

All I can say is that, is good to talk...to share. Because sometimes, we do want others to know what we are up to. But, spare some thoughts to yourself. What will your words do to you and your spouse. You figure that by being expressive, he/she will know and have compassion.

Yes, we all like to think that. But what if kalau spouse you tu sama je paranoid macam you and can turn back accusing you memalukan dia or memalukan you berdua as an item and use this as a weapon to attack you psychologically? Like, kau takde respect dgn aku, so I cannot be with you. Ish..aa tau orang manipulative macam tu..dia tunggu you buat salah sikit maka habis you dihukum nya. Be it dia nya yang pocong kesetanan.

Some people share their anxieties of dia nya makin gemuk lah, cholesterol sky high lah...migraine macam nak pecah kepala lah etc etc. But they can be the same person who selang seminit check in kat kedai mamak, kedai steak makan kambing, after midnight snacking makan nasik lemak. So, is it easy to figure out what this person actually thinking?

Patutnya, kalau tak nak gemuk, and kalau nak menunjuk sangat lah yang kegemukan itu menyesakkan nyawa, maka toksah lah makan (dan makan, dan makan dan makan lagi) benda-benda yang lemak nya sama banyak dgn lemak you yang sedia ada kan?

Tak ke orang yang membaca status you akan terdetik dalam hati nya or tersembur dari mulut nya akan kebangangan azali diri you itu?

Then you see the spouse yang sokmo menghebahkan, Sayang, kenapa you tak jawab call...or anything to suggest macam lakinya bak lembu liar yang tambat cemana pun tali tetap boleh putus. Pastu meghoyan-ghoyan lah pulak pasal jangan kacau lakinya etc etc. Wouldn't you wonder and berkata, patut lah lakinya berperangai ghopa itu, ko tengok lah bini nya ni hahhh....

Of course the 3rd person (the 4th, 5th and the rest) bila Nampak status meghoyan tu, lagi lah naik lemak kan? So with you advertsing and airing all your displeasure berbau ugutan-ugutan manja lagi celaka tu, tidak kah lagi akan bagi ammunition untuk orang tambah menyakitkan hati you?
 
Like I said...spare some thoughts for yourself. It may saves you...and of course, make you a better person. It's okay to have poor judgement, poor mental health...

And poor, is way way better that damaged.