Masa I kat KL tu hari..drama apa yang I tak tengok?
1st week, I was hook on with this drama memalam yang ada Sepiah Jane. True enough..I only follow it because of Sepiah Jane. Sepiah Jane tu adalah wanita yang dipuja-puja oleh siamang I, well, besides Julia Petiais. But siamang tu sedar dirinya enggang. Dia tak akan seswai nak digandingkan dengan merak pan asian yang memilih lelaki yang kaya sebagai swomi.
Tapi I takdelah macam Kiah yang mengaruk sampai nak beli buku segala....because menurut kata loyar sabung ayam, jalan cerita ghope itu..yakni mak mentua benci anak menantu...Datuk & Datin tido pakai jimjams adalah jalan cerita yang telah di franchise kan...in cerita melayu.
But the wealth of drama melayu....bukak channel ni..cerita ni. Bukak channel tu...cerita tu. Gone were the days of drama minggu ini hitam putih with Marlia Musa & Amir Mahmood squabbling, Asmahani Hussain nangis tak berenti renti...and that guy with the big lump on his face semedang jadi orang jahat.
My 10 year old niece told her mum that the pompuan muntah in the drama is expecting. Wahh...sebagai mencover malu, makciknya ni cakap lah..ehh, pandai nya cakap macam tu. Dia muntah sebab sakit perut lah. Pastu gedebuk the pemuntah admited that she is expecting. In my head I associated pomnpuan ngandung with her having sex prior to that. Of course the thought of sexual nature tu sungguh tak sesuai untuk ditonton dek budak sepuluh tahun.
But what do you know eh? My niece can even tell you the conflict in the actors relationship in that particular drama. Nak je I cakap..you all should only watch Tom & Jerry.
Pastu...MC cakap dgn I about this program that I might suka tanpa komplen-komplen. I mmg suka komplen drama melayu uols..ye lah, pelakon Malaya kan overacting...kalau tak caya cuba tengok Norman Hakim berlakon kalau dia kena pakai spec. Kiralah berapa kali dia bukak cabut spec nya. Kita yang pakai spec ni pun hanya cabut spec bila spec to berabuk and bila nak tido or bila nak gosok mata. Pakcik tu?
Tu belum lagi kalau mereka orang tu gelabah kann? Macam terencat pun ada. And of course, yang paling tak tahan ialah..betapa ramainya pelakon yang menghidap schizophrenia. The voices they heard during scene yang dok lah monologue tak habis habis. Ko gilo ko po???
True enough, I tengok lah Serangoon Road tu dgn tak kelip2 mata. So dicadangkan kepada Mak Piah..dah dah la ko menengok Rita Rudaini tu...
Yes, atas dasar paksarela kena teman anak buah tengok TV, aku tengok jugaklah cerita Mr Arrogant tu...(of course, nak jaga airmuka, I didn't tell Kiah) and like Kiah, I wonder...apalah kejam nya Mak Mentua dgn menantu nya and menantu pulak, dah la Mak Mentua cam haram, laki kuang ajaq...tetap gak nak menonggok dalam rumah tu.
Oh ye...do not let me start on that Dewi Lasak celakababisialpunyacerita tu.
Cerita JalalauddinH penghidap hemorrhoids tahap 4 tu...part mana yang bagusnya cerita tu sampai satu rumah sanggup Maghrib 2 minit (anak2 buah I lah ni) dan menonggok depan TV.
Oh ya Kiah..you know what's showing on Emirates flight? WAWA SEMPUT. Cubalah ko pi tengok and I bet you need to have your nebuliser ready.
Tuhan tolong lahhh.......
Sunday, November 10, 2013
Saturday, November 09, 2013
Today's Thoughts
If I didn't respond to your comments...then I am sorry. I do read and appreciate them. But fiddling the blogpost through a mobile phone screen is like trying to swallow a vitamin supplement that is as big or little less smaller than that lethal panadol soluble. Macam haram.
I have been away. Balik 'rumah' sekejap. For now, rumah for me is still London....bukanlah sebab I ni lupa daratan ye uols...but London is the only place that have my name registered on it. My katil, lemari baju and all the things that I needs is here.
Then, in between balik rumah, I pi berpoya-poya. Yes, I spent time with people I really care about. I carved pumpkins for the first time. I witnessed the autumn..and the extent of it. Something that I wasn't able to do for a very long time sebab I ni dok membanting tulang aje.
Yes..I got over that anger...alaaa, the rage I got myself into dengan orang yang pi forward kat I gambar adik kerja bank tu. You see, there's plenty of irresponsible and insensitive people out there. Some of them are my friends. I have managed to dodge the grim pictures and stories all this time..ala, kat pesbuk kan senang..you tak nak tengok you jangan click. Kalau you dah tahu the usual suspect yang keroje nya rajin menyebarkan dan mengongsi gambar and cerita-cerita camtu, memang lah orang tu dah lama kena hide kann?
So bila malaun yang buat keroje tu dalam wassapdog, maka cara berhemah ialah meninggalkan group itu. Hish..kerana petai habis bilik air berbau kan? Too bad lah. Everything happen for a reason.
Okay..here's my cerita.
You got kawan tak yang sokmo mengadu domba kat you betapa dia dah fell out of love dgn partner nya? Sure ada. Kalau tak ada pun, I am sure now and again you see statuses flying about hinting people are going sideways....feelings wise.
Relationships ni payah. Kalau tak orang lain mengong, kita pulak perangai cam cipan. Ada kawan I ni dok lah kata the failure of her relationship is solely down to her...jantan tu jantan baik katanya, walaupun sekali sekala ada jugaklah perangai cilaka.
Then, let's just all agree on what can be categorised as perangai cilaka.
Have you been pursued by someone cam nak rak, until you pun cair hati so start lah going out together. Sebulan dua bulan happy...and few more months down the line..happy. World is your oyster lah kira. Pastu...start lah, tak bercakap..sentaps terlebih...hush hush sana sini situ. Kang bila ditanya-tanya, kita pulak yang nampak macam meghoyan terlebih.
Bila dah rasa bercakap pun tak jadi apa...startlah mengadu dgn kengkawan. Masalah can vary lah. Ada yang..tetiba rasa relationship dah takde sparks. Pandang kawan tu rasa macam pandang lepat pisang je (and you pulak not into lepat pisang)...masa bebaru kawan/kawin, tengok dia rasa cam tengok Kentaki.
Dah la set set Asia kita ni (spare lah benua ammapodi ye) nak ada open communication amat lah payah. To details your rebuttals to your spouse pun mulut rasa berat. Masalah dalam bilik tidur lah, masalah kurang communication lah...kang cakap kat bini, you ni macam tak hirau kan keperluan batin I, kena sound pulak...you tak nampak ke yang I ni dari pagi sampai ke malam tak lepas tangan buat itu ini itu ini? Kalau bini lak ngadu dgn laki akan kurang nya sentuhan2...buatnya dapat laki defensive mulut lahar pi kata you nympho padahal dia tu yg low sex drive nya, cemana?
What couples and even majority of people facing relationship problems, tak kisah lah problems dgn bibik ke...refused to believe that talk could help. You talk it out with the other person. That would foster an open discussion instead of stopping at expressing your opinion.
Truth always hurts...tu lah pasal orang tak nak berkata-kata.
So yes, this pesbuk friend of yours yang sokmo ber conflicts dgn laki. Pastu in some blue moon, buat posting singing praise lah kat laki or boipren dia tu. Kita yang baca ni pikir, ohh dah elok lah agaknya tu kot. Syukurrr. You see, when we know of a good couple, tak kisah lah couple that looks good together or couple yang kita tau either spouse nya mithali gilababi, bila stormy weather nya dah reda, sebagai kawan, kita bersyukur lah kan? Macam Silamajit dengan Acis, kalau ada crisis, kita sedih la dengar. Dengan beruang dulu kita kata..ah it's high time lah Silamajit ditch mangkuk hayun tu. Dah rupa tak berapa nak hensem, perangai mematching ghope nya.
Having said all this, some people do look good together when they're together. But whether they can be a match made in heaven, taktahu lah.
Someone asked, what do I make of people who freely advertising their relationships, their whereabouts..their hal kain dalam?
All I can say is that, is good to talk...to share. Because sometimes, we do want others to know what we are up to. But, spare some thoughts to yourself. What will your words do to you and your spouse. You figure that by being expressive, he/she will know and have compassion.
Yes, we all like to think that. But what if kalau spouse you tu sama je paranoid macam you and can turn back accusing you memalukan dia or memalukan you berdua as an item and use this as a weapon to attack you psychologically? Like, kau takde respect dgn aku, so I cannot be with you. Ish..aa tau orang manipulative macam tu..dia tunggu you buat salah sikit maka habis you dihukum nya. Be it dia nya yang pocong kesetanan.
Some people share their anxieties of dia nya makin gemuk lah, cholesterol sky high lah...migraine macam nak pecah kepala lah etc etc. But they can be the same person who selang seminit check in kat kedai mamak, kedai steak makan kambing, after midnight snacking makan nasik lemak. So, is it easy to figure out what this person actually thinking?
Patutnya, kalau tak nak gemuk, and kalau nak menunjuk sangat lah yang kegemukan itu menyesakkan nyawa, maka toksah lah makan (dan makan, dan makan dan makan lagi) benda-benda yang lemak nya sama banyak dgn lemak you yang sedia ada kan?
Tak ke orang yang membaca status you akan terdetik dalam hati nya or tersembur dari mulut nya akan kebangangan azali diri you itu?
Then you see the spouse yang sokmo menghebahkan, Sayang, kenapa you tak jawab call...or anything to suggest macam lakinya bak lembu liar yang tambat cemana pun tali tetap boleh putus. Pastu meghoyan-ghoyan lah pulak pasal jangan kacau lakinya etc etc. Wouldn't you wonder and berkata, patut lah lakinya berperangai ghopa itu, ko tengok lah bini nya ni hahhh....
Of course the 3rd person (the 4th, 5th and the rest) bila Nampak status meghoyan tu, lagi lah naik lemak kan? So with you advertsing and airing all your displeasure berbau ugutan-ugutan manja lagi celaka tu, tidak kah lagi akan bagi ammunition untuk orang tambah menyakitkan hati you?
Like I said...spare some thoughts for yourself. It may saves you...and of course, make you a better person. It's okay to have poor judgement, poor mental health...
And poor, is way way better that damaged.
I have been away. Balik 'rumah' sekejap. For now, rumah for me is still London....bukanlah sebab I ni lupa daratan ye uols...but London is the only place that have my name registered on it. My katil, lemari baju and all the things that I needs is here.
Then, in between balik rumah, I pi berpoya-poya. Yes, I spent time with people I really care about. I carved pumpkins for the first time. I witnessed the autumn..and the extent of it. Something that I wasn't able to do for a very long time sebab I ni dok membanting tulang aje.
Yes..I got over that anger...alaaa, the rage I got myself into dengan orang yang pi forward kat I gambar adik kerja bank tu. You see, there's plenty of irresponsible and insensitive people out there. Some of them are my friends. I have managed to dodge the grim pictures and stories all this time..ala, kat pesbuk kan senang..you tak nak tengok you jangan click. Kalau you dah tahu the usual suspect yang keroje nya rajin menyebarkan dan mengongsi gambar and cerita-cerita camtu, memang lah orang tu dah lama kena hide kann?
So bila malaun yang buat keroje tu dalam wassapdog, maka cara berhemah ialah meninggalkan group itu. Hish..kerana petai habis bilik air berbau kan? Too bad lah. Everything happen for a reason.
Okay..here's my cerita.
You got kawan tak yang sokmo mengadu domba kat you betapa dia dah fell out of love dgn partner nya? Sure ada. Kalau tak ada pun, I am sure now and again you see statuses flying about hinting people are going sideways....feelings wise.
Relationships ni payah. Kalau tak orang lain mengong, kita pulak perangai cam cipan. Ada kawan I ni dok lah kata the failure of her relationship is solely down to her...jantan tu jantan baik katanya, walaupun sekali sekala ada jugaklah perangai cilaka.
Then, let's just all agree on what can be categorised as perangai cilaka.
Have you been pursued by someone cam nak rak, until you pun cair hati so start lah going out together. Sebulan dua bulan happy...and few more months down the line..happy. World is your oyster lah kira. Pastu...start lah, tak bercakap..sentaps terlebih...hush hush sana sini situ. Kang bila ditanya-tanya, kita pulak yang nampak macam meghoyan terlebih.
Bila dah rasa bercakap pun tak jadi apa...startlah mengadu dgn kengkawan. Masalah can vary lah. Ada yang..tetiba rasa relationship dah takde sparks. Pandang kawan tu rasa macam pandang lepat pisang je (and you pulak not into lepat pisang)...masa bebaru kawan/kawin, tengok dia rasa cam tengok Kentaki.
Dah la set set Asia kita ni (spare lah benua ammapodi ye) nak ada open communication amat lah payah. To details your rebuttals to your spouse pun mulut rasa berat. Masalah dalam bilik tidur lah, masalah kurang communication lah...kang cakap kat bini, you ni macam tak hirau kan keperluan batin I, kena sound pulak...you tak nampak ke yang I ni dari pagi sampai ke malam tak lepas tangan buat itu ini itu ini? Kalau bini lak ngadu dgn laki akan kurang nya sentuhan2...buatnya dapat laki defensive mulut lahar pi kata you nympho padahal dia tu yg low sex drive nya, cemana?
What couples and even majority of people facing relationship problems, tak kisah lah problems dgn bibik ke...refused to believe that talk could help. You talk it out with the other person. That would foster an open discussion instead of stopping at expressing your opinion.
Truth always hurts...tu lah pasal orang tak nak berkata-kata.
So yes, this pesbuk friend of yours yang sokmo ber conflicts dgn laki. Pastu in some blue moon, buat posting singing praise lah kat laki or boipren dia tu. Kita yang baca ni pikir, ohh dah elok lah agaknya tu kot. Syukurrr. You see, when we know of a good couple, tak kisah lah couple that looks good together or couple yang kita tau either spouse nya mithali gilababi, bila stormy weather nya dah reda, sebagai kawan, kita bersyukur lah kan? Macam Silamajit dengan Acis, kalau ada crisis, kita sedih la dengar. Dengan beruang dulu kita kata..ah it's high time lah Silamajit ditch mangkuk hayun tu. Dah rupa tak berapa nak hensem, perangai mematching ghope nya.
Having said all this, some people do look good together when they're together. But whether they can be a match made in heaven, taktahu lah.
Someone asked, what do I make of people who freely advertising their relationships, their whereabouts..their hal kain dalam?
All I can say is that, is good to talk...to share. Because sometimes, we do want others to know what we are up to. But, spare some thoughts to yourself. What will your words do to you and your spouse. You figure that by being expressive, he/she will know and have compassion.
Yes, we all like to think that. But what if kalau spouse you tu sama je paranoid macam you and can turn back accusing you memalukan dia or memalukan you berdua as an item and use this as a weapon to attack you psychologically? Like, kau takde respect dgn aku, so I cannot be with you. Ish..aa tau orang manipulative macam tu..dia tunggu you buat salah sikit maka habis you dihukum nya. Be it dia nya yang pocong kesetanan.
Some people share their anxieties of dia nya makin gemuk lah, cholesterol sky high lah...migraine macam nak pecah kepala lah etc etc. But they can be the same person who selang seminit check in kat kedai mamak, kedai steak makan kambing, after midnight snacking makan nasik lemak. So, is it easy to figure out what this person actually thinking?
Patutnya, kalau tak nak gemuk, and kalau nak menunjuk sangat lah yang kegemukan itu menyesakkan nyawa, maka toksah lah makan (dan makan, dan makan dan makan lagi) benda-benda yang lemak nya sama banyak dgn lemak you yang sedia ada kan?
Tak ke orang yang membaca status you akan terdetik dalam hati nya or tersembur dari mulut nya akan kebangangan azali diri you itu?
Then you see the spouse yang sokmo menghebahkan, Sayang, kenapa you tak jawab call...or anything to suggest macam lakinya bak lembu liar yang tambat cemana pun tali tetap boleh putus. Pastu meghoyan-ghoyan lah pulak pasal jangan kacau lakinya etc etc. Wouldn't you wonder and berkata, patut lah lakinya berperangai ghopa itu, ko tengok lah bini nya ni hahhh....
Of course the 3rd person (the 4th, 5th and the rest) bila Nampak status meghoyan tu, lagi lah naik lemak kan? So with you advertsing and airing all your displeasure berbau ugutan-ugutan manja lagi celaka tu, tidak kah lagi akan bagi ammunition untuk orang tambah menyakitkan hati you?
Like I said...spare some thoughts for yourself. It may saves you...and of course, make you a better person. It's okay to have poor judgement, poor mental health...
And poor, is way way better that damaged.
Thursday, November 07, 2013
Displaced Dependency
Semasa berpoya-poya recently, we sempat bergossip about this friend of ours yang sudah menjadi balu.
Dah 2,3 tahun jugaklah dia ni menjadi expressly single when the laki just die from cardiac arrest. Tu dia....takde hint hint langsung arwahnya tu sakit malah mereka berdua active lah mewarnai dunia pesbuk mereka dgn activity activity berdua. So you can imagine the shock wife has to go through.
She rose to become the topic of her friends conversations....kitorang la. Masa memula hidupnya amatlah sengsara gituh. I am not talking sengsara in terms of being destitute. Both were doing so well, well enough the wife can just work whenever she wants to. But wife was insanely pampered by the hubs errr, so the impression that we got. Ye la, semua pun tatau buat sebab katanya lakinya yang buat. Nak uruskan sekolah anak, taktau. Nak uruskan yuran college anak, hal hal bank, apa segala benda duniawi, dia tak tahu katanya...in between her sobs. So bad that adalah kawan2 kami jugak yg terpaksa mem volunteer diri jadi PA nya masa tu.
One of our friend reckoned that...agaknya she is still in shock tu yang ada temporary amnesia tu. Ye laa...takkan lah nak bank in duit pun tatau kannnn?
Some of us think that arwah laki is so awfully sweet....and membayangkan cemanalah wife akan meneruskan hidup tanpa laki gituh.
I pulak....tak tau nak pikir apa. I quite agree with the shock bit. I remembered when adik I meninggal, my appa cam tergamang la tatau nak buat apa hilang punca like that sampai another person had to take over uruskan hal.
But women is way lot stronger than men, mentally. Setakat picking up pieces tu macam rebus kacang kuda lah gamaknya.
But with this friend of ours....after 2,3 years...I heard masih gak ala-ala tak reti nak urus hal dunia dia. Adakalanya....ternampaklah we all akan kesedihan nya mengenangkan lakinya hence, declarations in pesbuk yang tiada lagi laki sepertinya. For some reason...I think that sort of declaration is much sweeter coming from a man than a woman. Ye lah, kita kan sokmo rasa laki kita of boipren kita tu lah god gift nya. Perangai lahanat dia mmg telah diblock jejauh dari memory gituh. Tapi jantan yang mati bini or bercerai mati...dalam sejuta duda, adalah 2,3 yang akan kata tiada pompuan lain dapat menggantikan tempat bininya.
M Nasir said the same about his ideal sisters's wife. Not long after that, he married Marlia Musa. Grievinggggggggglah sangat kannnn?
So kawan kami ni, yesss...masih grieving gamak nya. Kalau pergi karaoke tu nyanyi lagi ala ala ku kehilangan mu and stuff like that. But I cakap dgn my frens, with all the check ins kat tempat tempat happening, berjalan kesana kemari independently, haruskah kita rasa dia tu 'crippled' by grieve? Our friend merangkap PA tak berbayar yang masih lagi menguruskan hal dunia balu kuciwa tu telah kami api kan supaya jangan dok tolong dia lagi. Bukannya dengki...but please ah, about time lah ko belajar kan? Sampai bila nak tunjuk kat dunia kau tu sedih tak larat?
Another friend of mine told me that how her world was shattered when she got divorced. Punyalah dependent dgn laki, bawak keta pun tatau so she had to learn everything.
Ada jugak balu yang kata..she must remarry because dia tak reti hidup sorang. ----cam ni pun ada tau uols. So off she sign up some dating websites and berdating dating.
Please lah....bukan ke banyak benda kita boleh buat? If you are not into charity work...gi lah sapu sampah ye tak? Take your mind of things..idoklah nak menangisi hidup yg ditinggalkan laki
yang takkan kembali.
Another thing...this overly dependent, insanely being pampered etc etc...sweet kah? I for one think that if your spouse tend to do everything and not letting you play part in anything...is a gross control freak. This sort of person will not even share their personal details. I asked this fren of mine yang balu kuciwa ni, so you were close..but how come you donno his pin password etc? He is not even preparing you for emergency. Come on... we are mere mortal. Tak terpikir kah if anything happens?
When you decided to commit with your partner, bersedialah nak commit segala benda sekali. Simpan sikit aje lah untuk kita buat back up...macam, kalau beli rumah, kalau kedekut sangat dgn bini, taruklah penama nama anak ke with wife as the guardian.
Buat lah manual ke, like how do you pay your mortgage monthly? How to use the jump start....what fabric conditioner to buy....ops! Simpan manual tu for only to be opened in the event of your passing. Gituh.
So back to this balu kuciwa, I cakap dgn kengkawan I yang maybe...dia ni mmg suka orang bagi attention kat dirinya....and what can be is that she did not grieve properly tu yg dok hidup macam monyet proboscis je tu.
As oppose to another friend of ours yang balu sebab lakinya kena denggi dgn dianya baru lepas beranak...youngest baru 2 minggu and eldest 2 tahun. After 8 years, baru hatinya terbuka nak terima chenta dari jantan. I asked her, how do you cope?
She said..I was sad, shocked and busy. All I can think of is my sons and how to raise them without father being around. She said she was angry too....to her husband yang katanya..amboi kata nak sehidup semati pastu boleh lah mati dulu sensorang. Gituh.
So to all wives out there....start taking notes from the husband ye. But kalau you all aje yang buat semuanya like this wife I know, laki kau dok tidur dan sopping aje, maka all you need to know is bank and insurance details. Kalau laki you tu kedekut tak nak share, habaq la kat dia you need to buy his kain kapan and duit gali kubur and berdosa berhutang dgn you, if you have to pay it..nanti dia takleh aman dalam kubur gituh.
Kan?
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Dah 2,3 tahun jugaklah dia ni menjadi expressly single when the laki just die from cardiac arrest. Tu dia....takde hint hint langsung arwahnya tu sakit malah mereka berdua active lah mewarnai dunia pesbuk mereka dgn activity activity berdua. So you can imagine the shock wife has to go through.
She rose to become the topic of her friends conversations....kitorang la. Masa memula hidupnya amatlah sengsara gituh. I am not talking sengsara in terms of being destitute. Both were doing so well, well enough the wife can just work whenever she wants to. But wife was insanely pampered by the hubs errr, so the impression that we got. Ye la, semua pun tatau buat sebab katanya lakinya yang buat. Nak uruskan sekolah anak, taktau. Nak uruskan yuran college anak, hal hal bank, apa segala benda duniawi, dia tak tahu katanya...in between her sobs. So bad that adalah kawan2 kami jugak yg terpaksa mem volunteer diri jadi PA nya masa tu.
One of our friend reckoned that...agaknya she is still in shock tu yang ada temporary amnesia tu. Ye laa...takkan lah nak bank in duit pun tatau kannnn?
Some of us think that arwah laki is so awfully sweet....and membayangkan cemanalah wife akan meneruskan hidup tanpa laki gituh.
I pulak....tak tau nak pikir apa. I quite agree with the shock bit. I remembered when adik I meninggal, my appa cam tergamang la tatau nak buat apa hilang punca like that sampai another person had to take over uruskan hal.
But women is way lot stronger than men, mentally. Setakat picking up pieces tu macam rebus kacang kuda lah gamaknya.
But with this friend of ours....after 2,3 years...I heard masih gak ala-ala tak reti nak urus hal dunia dia. Adakalanya....ternampaklah we all akan kesedihan nya mengenangkan lakinya hence, declarations in pesbuk yang tiada lagi laki sepertinya. For some reason...I think that sort of declaration is much sweeter coming from a man than a woman. Ye lah, kita kan sokmo rasa laki kita of boipren kita tu lah god gift nya. Perangai lahanat dia mmg telah diblock jejauh dari memory gituh. Tapi jantan yang mati bini or bercerai mati...dalam sejuta duda, adalah 2,3 yang akan kata tiada pompuan lain dapat menggantikan tempat bininya.
M Nasir said the same about his ideal sisters's wife. Not long after that, he married Marlia Musa. Grievinggggggggglah sangat kannnn?
So kawan kami ni, yesss...masih grieving gamak nya. Kalau pergi karaoke tu nyanyi lagi ala ala ku kehilangan mu and stuff like that. But I cakap dgn my frens, with all the check ins kat tempat tempat happening, berjalan kesana kemari independently, haruskah kita rasa dia tu 'crippled' by grieve? Our friend merangkap PA tak berbayar yang masih lagi menguruskan hal dunia balu kuciwa tu telah kami api kan supaya jangan dok tolong dia lagi. Bukannya dengki...but please ah, about time lah ko belajar kan? Sampai bila nak tunjuk kat dunia kau tu sedih tak larat?
Another friend of mine told me that how her world was shattered when she got divorced. Punyalah dependent dgn laki, bawak keta pun tatau so she had to learn everything.
Ada jugak balu yang kata..she must remarry because dia tak reti hidup sorang. ----cam ni pun ada tau uols. So off she sign up some dating websites and berdating dating.
Please lah....bukan ke banyak benda kita boleh buat? If you are not into charity work...gi lah sapu sampah ye tak? Take your mind of things..idoklah nak menangisi hidup yg ditinggalkan laki
yang takkan kembali.
Another thing...this overly dependent, insanely being pampered etc etc...sweet kah? I for one think that if your spouse tend to do everything and not letting you play part in anything...is a gross control freak. This sort of person will not even share their personal details. I asked this fren of mine yang balu kuciwa ni, so you were close..but how come you donno his pin password etc? He is not even preparing you for emergency. Come on... we are mere mortal. Tak terpikir kah if anything happens?
When you decided to commit with your partner, bersedialah nak commit segala benda sekali. Simpan sikit aje lah untuk kita buat back up...macam, kalau beli rumah, kalau kedekut sangat dgn bini, taruklah penama nama anak ke with wife as the guardian.
Buat lah manual ke, like how do you pay your mortgage monthly? How to use the jump start....what fabric conditioner to buy....ops! Simpan manual tu for only to be opened in the event of your passing. Gituh.
So back to this balu kuciwa, I cakap dgn kengkawan I yang maybe...dia ni mmg suka orang bagi attention kat dirinya....and what can be is that she did not grieve properly tu yg dok hidup macam monyet proboscis je tu.
As oppose to another friend of ours yang balu sebab lakinya kena denggi dgn dianya baru lepas beranak...youngest baru 2 minggu and eldest 2 tahun. After 8 years, baru hatinya terbuka nak terima chenta dari jantan. I asked her, how do you cope?
She said..I was sad, shocked and busy. All I can think of is my sons and how to raise them without father being around. She said she was angry too....to her husband yang katanya..amboi kata nak sehidup semati pastu boleh lah mati dulu sensorang. Gituh.
So to all wives out there....start taking notes from the husband ye. But kalau you all aje yang buat semuanya like this wife I know, laki kau dok tidur dan sopping aje, maka all you need to know is bank and insurance details. Kalau laki you tu kedekut tak nak share, habaq la kat dia you need to buy his kain kapan and duit gali kubur and berdosa berhutang dgn you, if you have to pay it..nanti dia takleh aman dalam kubur gituh.
Kan?
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Tuesday, November 05, 2013
Mohon Terasa
Do you know that I have to keep someone floating in my pesbuk list so that me and Kiah can have a laugh, cringe and kutuk together?
Yeehaaa..we are jahat like that. In one funny moon, mak Piah will join in...kerana terpaksa lah kann because Kiah and I have been going on about it. Perbuatan ni memanglah rendah moral...but let's see, I am on a budget. I can't afford comedy show so the freeview is the Facebook. You see and read loads of things.
You read about how people love themselves more than...more than..err themselves. Acaner tuh? Okaylah...imagine having an orgasm and these self-lover people scream out their own name. Gituh. We use to just gelak the 1st, 2nd, 3rd........12th offenders. Kelakar...ye lah, kelakarlah kan baca posting orang tu kata dia ada iras-iras Kim Kardashian.
After the 12th episodes of saya sayang diri saya sendiri, the gelak-gelak will soon turn into...astaga...apakena kau ni...
But I remember telling Kiah, we have got to admire their courage. Can we do that? Nahh..we probably too busy thinking what people make of us.
My own statuses will depend on ....what rock my boat that day. I have this pesbuk bipolar illness. The genre will vary. From simple observation, lovey dovey, sampah menyampah bordering tu nak bunuh orang, depressed sampai nak bunuh diri sendiri or just plain rant.
Oh ya..I was ranting about the grim gambar sharer. Dengan pesbuk ada ampun sikit, if ada orang share..you can just ignore it. With wassapdog group sometimes you get this feeling that you're pushed to the corner. Kena gak baca..kena gak tengok..kalau tak the blink of the mobile phone light will hound you in the dark. I think people need to be reminded of the ethos and rules of the group. But then again...is there such thing like ethos and rules in that independent chat group? Baca je lah...pastu kutuk.
Among your hundredth of friends, you don't know who is reading what. I have bunch of friends thinking that I am the haluan kiri group. Well, this is hamnoh people or fence sitters. People who thinks that, don't fix thing that ain't broken. I have a friend telling me why must I join orang BERSIH tu cari pasal...sebab Malaysia kan dah elok aman damai. I then asked her, do you know what BERSIH is for?
Like any other rebels yang membagi busuk nama, they be happy to barge in at any avenue yang against gomen policy to prove their 'rebellious' points. Most are just clueless.
I can have wrong opinion too...hehehe. But they are my opinions until I am proven otherwise. I also have friend to think that I am not at 'peace' with myself because I posted angry statuses. Hek elehh....nak sindir orang lain, orang lain lak yang terasa, kan Kiah? Bengang by her comment, I messaged this friend of mine privately. I told her that she is wrong thinking that. Whilst I appreciate her suggestion to seek Allah to ease my pain (pain lah sangat) I told her that she should read everything she sees with an open mind without making conclusions. If she wants to have a judgement than its fine lah...tu dia punya pasal but to imposed it on me when she tatau hujung pangkal maka tu macam self righteous lah pulak. I have no problem with her applying Prof Muhaya's concept but I also dare to think that the great professor can get things wrong too..to the best of her.
Best way to put it..maka berpada-padalah nak bagi opinion. Kalau orang tanya then bagi. Of course nak bagi opinion tu tak salah...tapi janganlah assume orang tu ada issue pulak.
BTW, sipolan tu dah diremove...tak kuasa aku nak membaca opinion dia pasal manusia sejagat.
There are also parents who thinks that their child is god. Nak nak kalau tu aje lah sorang anak nya. But I think mothers are like that..well apart from Kiah. But really, can you stomach a marathon of ohh anak ku, kaulah permata hatiku...hidup ini tiada erti tanpa mu. That kind of status selama 365 hari...14 kali sehari. Ko mampu?
Yes...I am friends with them...you may suggest that I start spring cleaning soon. But having a rethink, maybe I am just too worry about what people think of me. I got no anak or laki untuk ku puja-puja langkah kaki nya.
I don't have truckloads of money to shop hence checking in at Gicik, Pradak with mind boggling status...torn between blue or green tote...help! will not appear on my timeline.
Today pulak I baca...that to mengeratkan silaturrahim dgn orang yang kita jarang bercakap maka sebaiknya kita like lah status atau gambar orang tu. Meaning..kalau dia taruk gambar selipar hello kitty dia maka wajib lah kau like supaya dia tahu kau sentiasa mengingati dirinya in every click you make.
Takpun, kalaulah tiada pesbuk, untuk mengeratkan silaturrahim dgn orang yang kita jarang bercakap tu, maka kita tawaflah rumah nya barang se round dgn honda civic kita. To show how much we care. In addition to such a bizarre statement, the owner siap tulis MOHON TERASA lagi.
Seriously, really? However not interesting...we have got to like you just to show you that we care?
Surely people have their own agenda when they signed up for pesbuk.
At this minute, another friend of mine is calling out for her children to sembahyang maghrib sama2. Cepat..mama tunggu ni. And you can't help to think that this tech savvy family communicates with each other through pesbuk statuses.
Whilst there are some who may be frustrated and feel the need to have a rant, please remember there's people reading you and will make up their mind about you. So please take the time to practice your patience as well as taking a deep breath. Re read your status. It gives you the chance to fix and to re word.
Serves as a reminder to me, please do not send your words of anger directly. Chances are...people think you need doses of Harun Din's remedy.
Yeehaaa..we are jahat like that. In one funny moon, mak Piah will join in...kerana terpaksa lah kann because Kiah and I have been going on about it. Perbuatan ni memanglah rendah moral...but let's see, I am on a budget. I can't afford comedy show so the freeview is the Facebook. You see and read loads of things.
You read about how people love themselves more than...more than..err themselves. Acaner tuh? Okaylah...imagine having an orgasm and these self-lover people scream out their own name. Gituh. We use to just gelak the 1st, 2nd, 3rd........12th offenders. Kelakar...ye lah, kelakarlah kan baca posting orang tu kata dia ada iras-iras Kim Kardashian.
After the 12th episodes of saya sayang diri saya sendiri, the gelak-gelak will soon turn into...astaga...apakena kau ni...
But I remember telling Kiah, we have got to admire their courage. Can we do that? Nahh..we probably too busy thinking what people make of us.
My own statuses will depend on ....what rock my boat that day. I have this pesbuk bipolar illness. The genre will vary. From simple observation, lovey dovey, sampah menyampah bordering tu nak bunuh orang, depressed sampai nak bunuh diri sendiri or just plain rant.
Oh ya..I was ranting about the grim gambar sharer. Dengan pesbuk ada ampun sikit, if ada orang share..you can just ignore it. With wassapdog group sometimes you get this feeling that you're pushed to the corner. Kena gak baca..kena gak tengok..kalau tak the blink of the mobile phone light will hound you in the dark. I think people need to be reminded of the ethos and rules of the group. But then again...is there such thing like ethos and rules in that independent chat group? Baca je lah...pastu kutuk.
Among your hundredth of friends, you don't know who is reading what. I have bunch of friends thinking that I am the haluan kiri group. Well, this is hamnoh people or fence sitters. People who thinks that, don't fix thing that ain't broken. I have a friend telling me why must I join orang BERSIH tu cari pasal...sebab Malaysia kan dah elok aman damai. I then asked her, do you know what BERSIH is for?
Like any other rebels yang membagi busuk nama, they be happy to barge in at any avenue yang against gomen policy to prove their 'rebellious' points. Most are just clueless.
I can have wrong opinion too...hehehe. But they are my opinions until I am proven otherwise. I also have friend to think that I am not at 'peace' with myself because I posted angry statuses. Hek elehh....nak sindir orang lain, orang lain lak yang terasa, kan Kiah? Bengang by her comment, I messaged this friend of mine privately. I told her that she is wrong thinking that. Whilst I appreciate her suggestion to seek Allah to ease my pain (pain lah sangat) I told her that she should read everything she sees with an open mind without making conclusions. If she wants to have a judgement than its fine lah...tu dia punya pasal but to imposed it on me when she tatau hujung pangkal maka tu macam self righteous lah pulak. I have no problem with her applying Prof Muhaya's concept but I also dare to think that the great professor can get things wrong too..to the best of her.
Best way to put it..maka berpada-padalah nak bagi opinion. Kalau orang tanya then bagi. Of course nak bagi opinion tu tak salah...tapi janganlah assume orang tu ada issue pulak.
BTW, sipolan tu dah diremove...tak kuasa aku nak membaca opinion dia pasal manusia sejagat.
There are also parents who thinks that their child is god. Nak nak kalau tu aje lah sorang anak nya. But I think mothers are like that..well apart from Kiah. But really, can you stomach a marathon of ohh anak ku, kaulah permata hatiku...hidup ini tiada erti tanpa mu. That kind of status selama 365 hari...14 kali sehari. Ko mampu?
Yes...I am friends with them...you may suggest that I start spring cleaning soon. But having a rethink, maybe I am just too worry about what people think of me. I got no anak or laki untuk ku puja-puja langkah kaki nya.
I don't have truckloads of money to shop hence checking in at Gicik, Pradak with mind boggling status...torn between blue or green tote...help! will not appear on my timeline.
Today pulak I baca...that to mengeratkan silaturrahim dgn orang yang kita jarang bercakap maka sebaiknya kita like lah status atau gambar orang tu. Meaning..kalau dia taruk gambar selipar hello kitty dia maka wajib lah kau like supaya dia tahu kau sentiasa mengingati dirinya in every click you make.
Takpun, kalaulah tiada pesbuk, untuk mengeratkan silaturrahim dgn orang yang kita jarang bercakap tu, maka kita tawaflah rumah nya barang se round dgn honda civic kita. To show how much we care. In addition to such a bizarre statement, the owner siap tulis MOHON TERASA lagi.
Seriously, really? However not interesting...we have got to like you just to show you that we care?
Surely people have their own agenda when they signed up for pesbuk.
At this minute, another friend of mine is calling out for her children to sembahyang maghrib sama2. Cepat..mama tunggu ni. And you can't help to think that this tech savvy family communicates with each other through pesbuk statuses.
Whilst there are some who may be frustrated and feel the need to have a rant, please remember there's people reading you and will make up their mind about you. So please take the time to practice your patience as well as taking a deep breath. Re read your status. It gives you the chance to fix and to re word.
Serves as a reminder to me, please do not send your words of anger directly. Chances are...people think you need doses of Harun Din's remedy.
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