Kita & Anak Orang

Seperti biasa. ..tajuk macam harams.  But this topic has been burning in my head since.

I am friends with people yang dah beranak. Truth be told...I don't have any and as I am advancing in age....hiks...I don't intend to produce any. My excuse have always been. ..selagi I tak steady dgn bapak kepada anak I itu...maka anak2 dari I takkan wujud. Meaning....I need to be in a solid relationship with a man before aku boleh menambah masalah lain.

Lagi pun...sedari dulu I mmg sangat garang dgn budak2 dan pernah jugak lah kena tuduh mendera padahal nya...I cuma hambat secara verbal supaya si budak2 tu iaitu my little cousins gi ngaji. Pukul tu takde la.

Dalan pesbuk...I selalu ternampak defensive parents yang don't take it kindly pada sebarang comments membina dan meruntuh yg ditujukan pada anak2 mereka.

Adalah sorang mak ni...dah suka post gambor anak you dlm pesbuk...kalau gambar budak tu berposing je sure la org akan 'Like' atau bagi comment 2 waaaaah...chanteque nya anak you...hik hik hik. Tapi si mak ni..amat camera friendly so segala gambar la kluar kannn, termasuklah gambar budak tu tgh ngisap jari (diwaktu umur budak tu mmg suka nak taruk segala barang yg dia jumpa dlm mulutnya)

So...adalah yg comment. ..anak you tu lapar kot etc etc dan kawan yg prihatin ni bagilah cadangan kat si emak tu...

Nak tau mak tu jawab apa? Dgn sinis nya...not answering directly to the tukang comment,  mak boleh kata. .I know lah when my child is hungry. Gituhhhhh. Adalah banyak examples ke defensive an mak itu...kenkadang nak je I cakap...kalau ko taknak org comment jgn la bagi sebab atau ruang utk org comment.  But knowing her...the mother...jawapan standard dia akan ckp la..ni pesbuk I...tak suka jgn la tgk. Hek elehhhh....tak menepati context dan concept langsung!

I'm sure...kita pernah tgk takpun...kita sendiri yg bermasalah dgn org yg tegur anak kita.  Some may feel that...if others tegur secara tak langsung it mirrors ketidak efficient nan kita menjadi makpak.

Well...tell me...ada ke right or wrong way in mendidik anak2?  Apart fm the obvious dos and don'ts. ..mmg we somehow will get it wrong. 

I ada makcik yg...anak orang dia akan selamba aje  memetir-metir tapi anak dia jgn lah ko usik ye. Kiranya anak2 dia saja yg dididik style Rasullullah mendidik anak (wallahualam bissawab) yg takde cacat cela langsung. Nak kata makcik I ni tak pernah marah anak dia..kaw kaw la jugak. But I do wonder why dia mcm resent sgt org marah anak2 nya. 

I think parents. ...rightly,  kalau lah yg set tak pernah rotan anak...maybe kalau org terajang anak kita..maka kita patut la intervene.  Ckp je la..eh..I pun tak pernah lempang budak tu...u don't la lempang...walaupun mmg perangai budak tu sgt mintak pelempang.

But if org tegur/marah anak2 you dgn method yg you sendiri pun pernah or selalu guna...perlukah nak masam2 muka dgn situkang disiplin tu?

Why ah? Why parents must get upset bila anak dia kena tegur?

I dulu selalu ditegur dek sedara mara I...pemalas la...takde adab la ( I don't talk to ppl...org dtg rumah lari masuk bilik etc) but my parents would just do...hah..you tell her (me) idok lah nampak mereka nak bermasam muka dgn sipenegur tu. Even masa I kena tuduh dera anak orang...my appa would quietly pujuk me...and say..takpe...I know you...biarlah org nak tuduh. 

Yesterday. ...something happened.  I really kecik ati and terus lari dari rumah (drama tau!) I was asked to help this little monkey with homework. ..and I told her mother yg I think monkey deliberately buat perangai cipan to get out of it. So mak budak tu marah anaknya kawkaw. Apak budak tu intervene and marah mak nya. I'm sure apak budak tu dah dengar my comments abt his anak. 

Budak tu pulak mmg la ada tokoh nak masuk drama class sebab pandai betul dia menghayati watak kanak2 yg didera...the wailing really shows her true talent.  

Langsung apak budak tu bagi I cold shoulder. 

I think if I lah ada anak. ...unless if you panggil budak tu nama tak sedap dengar, caruts or terajang sampai patah..that may warrant a cause to retaliate.  But kalau takat marah membina or rotan zap zap yg compliant dgn akta kanak2 if any...then yes...I think my child should experience kena marah dgn org lain selain mak pak nya. 

As a parents. ..tak terpikir kah kita yg anak2 tu boleh mengaburi mata kita yg rabun dek kegagalan operation lasik berfungsi dgn baik? Ops!

Defensive parents. ..well. .understandably. ..will always say they know their children better than anyone.  Same to a wife yg kata....dia kenal lakinya luar dalam.

But..tetappp gak kena tipu kannn? Well...in some very unfortunate cases la. Bukannya semua org ada sixth sense kannn.

Well...parents. ..I let you tell me otherwise. 

Sekian.

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