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Sunday, April 03, 2011

Love is about...hurting.

This two person is madly in love (kata mereka laaaa) the guy is married and his other half is a divorcee. They have been going out for a while...and in the end, the woman realised that she has had enough of being the other woman and started making plans...on her own. Enough is enough she said. And this guy, upon realisation that this woman is leaving and the thought of her being gone is killing him...finally plucked up the courage to end his loveless marriage. Of course hurting the wife..ye lah, teriba je pi cakap kat orang tu ko rasa ko tak bahagia and mahu blah...you ingat tak pecah belah kah hatinya???


The two got married and live in a place where nobody knows them. Happy. Tow lovers finally reunited and start anew. Two years ago, his wife caught him in bed with another woman. They have since went separate ways.


We often think that we are madly, crazy and insanely in love with the other person, that's kind of enough to build something and to warrant a good relationship. Everything seems so right when we feel so loved.


I read, I heard and I know about people having another relationship out of their present one. All for various reasons. I knew about a couple yang dua-dua nya pun ada affair. How they managed that, loving up others pastu balik ngadap laki/bini masing2 pun tak tahu lah.


Ada yang ber affair sebab kurang kasih sayang....but bila ditengok life mereka tu, it is either the other one is too busy paying attention to the practical part in their marriage. Ye lah, kalau the laki kata he is lack of kasih sayang from wife, lupa pulak dia nak pikir yang anak dah 3, orang gaji tak ada..wife pun kerja, so kalau terabai pun..bukannya terabai kat benda-benda tak berfaedah kan? The man expect the wife to be so super and the wife assume the husband to at least understand. Ohh, tak tahu ke kita yang untuk mendapat apa yang kita hajati..kita kena berkata-kata? Bukannya menggunakan teknik telepathy macam Kiah..pastu meradang sendiri.


Ada yang bangsa dah malas nak berkata-kata...sebabnya berkata-kata pun tak kan jadi apa. So the only to make things works is to adapt dengan perangai orang yang tak mahu berubah tu. Some people memang tak tahu nak berubah...but having think and said that, perlukah kita berubah kalau tak ada benda yang patut diubah? Kenapakah kita mesti mengharap orang yang berubah mengikut kita?


Some of us are very lucky that things come landing nicely on our feet. People just worship the ground we walked on and love us warts and all. People hurt themselves for us and they do crazy things. Kita tahu dan kita biarkan saja...janji apa yang kita mahu kita dapat. Jahat kah kita? Tidak juga...(sebab kita rasa kita tak salah apa-apa) but...if we love someone so much, why are we hurting them?

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

pmpuan jenis man-eater and gold digger memang jahat selalu.

OOD said...

52,000 anak 'tiada taraf' was born in Malaysia last year.
(1) Demi cinta
(2) Demi cinta
(3) Demi cinta
(4) Sarung sudah expired
(3) Malu nak beli sarung

siah palehhhhhh

hani@debumelukut said...

singgah di sini secara tak sengaja dan terpikat.
nice blog...nak sambung baca lagi ni..

rad said...

Mak Aji,
I came across an old photo of your kekasih lama (anak raja Perak) yang dah kawin tuu..terus teringat kat empunya blog ni!

cacah said...

this topic is nice.
too many questions... but that's the reality...

Anonymous said...

kalo bekata2 pon takmo berubah...baik den tinggalkan sajork..pi la ko gan amoi rabak tu...oppssss